On my property they grow together (along with poison sumac) and even wrap around each other as they grow.
Personally, I'm not a fan of either because they're both so vigorous that I've seen them choke out and kill 100-year old pecan trees. I wish they would compete with one other; and have the grapevine win since, at least, the pigs, poultry, and
rabbits like to eat grape vines/leaves.
With all that said, though, I do think you could be on to something. I mean, we know environment is a big variable, with plants & animals constantly adapting to the environment & becoming localized strains of a species. So it's totally possible that something in my environment makes it beneficial for the 2 species to grow together, while something in your's has resulted in them being competitors.
Kudos to you for the good observations!