Can't defuse irrational. I learned that one long ago. Just ignore, walk away or delete. Was quite entertained just yesterday hearing you talk about this in 2 podcasts. So refreshing hearing other people realize anything and everything fuels the fire. Just don't give it energy. Or feeding the monster as you said wisely (albeit about a different topic but applies equally here).
Now I'm focusing on learning good things. Spent enough time convincing and gaining evidence everything is messed up and corrupt even though I already knew it anyway. Moving forward is so much better. Here's to seeing you this weekend.
Most problems on earth are caused by humans worrying about little pieces of green paper. Paraphrasing Douglas Adams
I don't care if it takes a compass, pick-axe and night vision goggles to find her. Paraphrasing Steve Martin in L.A. Story