Well, what I experienced didn't come across as fear, didn't freeze up in that way. More like simple repugnance, aversion, refusenik time, I will NOT follow that order, thank you just the same. Donkey brain says NO. <g> Maybe stems from the same place? Wouldn't be my first bet, but possible. But remembering the woman who "couldn't" get her own laundry (wasn't even a family job) done - don't think that was fear.
Nina Jay wrote:I honestly have no idea what I'm talking about or if this applies to anyone else but perhaps myself (and I'm not sure about that either)
but I think people do what they want to do and they don't do what they don't want to do.
I used to think like this. And why not? It's the myth we are fed every day of our school life. It basically says, if you're a failure, you aren't trying hard enough or you aren't wanting to succeed enough.
Humans aren't that simple.
I agree, R. It is a myth. But I did not mean it the way they mean it in school I do NOT think anyone is a failure if they don't "try" hard enough or "want to succeed" enough. Not at all. I think what I tried to say is near towards the end of my post, not in the section quoted above. But I think it's good that you mentioned this view point too, because it is a common one, even though NOT what I wanted to say.
"But if it's true that the only person over whom I have control of actions is myself, then it does matter what I do. It may not matter a jot to the world at large, but it matters to me." - John Seymour
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