A 55 gallon drum instead of a 35 gallon one won't overheat your place, it will just be wider and occupy more room (if only a little). If you can fit a 55 gallon drum and be comfortable with the layout, by all means use it.
The Rocket Mass Heaters book, on the other hand, is pretty much essential. It has about all the information you will need for building your RMH, and you won't miss something critical that might slip by if you are getting your info off the web. It will also give you the standard terms so that you can talk reliably with other people and both know what you mean. If you are really strapped, ask for it at the top of your Christmas list
A cordwood/cob wall is sturdy and fire-resistant enough that you can locate the hot parts of your RMH without worrying much about clearances.