I found you in my search for cast iron cooking information When I logged in, I saw your one rule "be nice" and almost choked with laughter. I have a tiny friendship board and our ONLY rule is 'be nice'...it's amazing how perfect a rule that is
I have a much larger forum that I run that has always had this one rule. In my experience, if you have a list of rules, then you have a bunch of folks that want to test the boundaries of the rules. And then, once you get everything well defined, you have so many rules that nobody reads any of them.