posted 14 years ago
This is just my humble opinion:
At 29 you probably want to be in a happy live and let live - let's work together type community; recipe for failure.
Even Paul's happy experience with the Permaculture course would have headed into conflict eventually. Two weeks is still into the ‘infatuation’ stage of the relationship. The real test comes later when conflict arises, how individuals deal with conflict and then the latter stage when you discover whether or not you can accept each others faults and shortcomings.
Here at Permies, Paul is the dictator; those that stay here like him as the dictator so it works for those who stay. My husband is the superintendant at his job and it is really no different; someone has to be the bad guy. I'm not good at being a bad guy so I have elected to stay in a position where I work alone and do not have to supervise anyone.
In my opinion human beings are no different than any other animal – there are no equals. If we are to be different than any other animal then we would overcome this inequality but if you look at any relationship, of any kind, there is a hierarchy of power; leaders and followers.
If you are to be successful my recommendation would be to accept that you are the leader, the dictator, the owner, right from the start. If the peeps want to come along fine, if not, then you are on your own. No one wants to be the bad guy but someone has to be leader of the pack, to keep order, direction and purpose on track.
If I were interested in starting such a community I would study the Amish structure of power, leadership, and rules for being part of the community. They have been doing this for a fairly long time - some successes and some failures but all in all they do alright.