Been trying to follow the drama...unfortunate biznez. Bottom line from where I sit - You put yourself out there to try to accommodate someone during a busy time, extra generous it seems to me. The favor was returned in the form of pushing the boundaries, lack of humility for a host and then holding a grudge that evolved into more drama and then the cherry youtube vid just puts a ! on the further seeming need for drama and justification. Clash of perspective, expectations and personalities. Coming to live for two weeks at any community is challenging. It goes way better when everybody is as humble as possible, pitches in for all and makes every effort to minimize drama, even at the cost of having to swallow it sometimes. Even though we pay to be at the PDCs or similar hands on intensives, I still see it as being hosted which requires respectful interactions. The very first 2-3 pushes on the boundary of acceptable behavior already seemed to demonstrate a lack of awareness as a visitor and student. Ungraceful and especially regrettable that it gets lumped into care for people in a negative context. Smells like bad wine.
Frustrating stuff Paul, I add my voice of support and wish you a speedy, smooth jettison of the issue from your being. I also hope you don't over compensate in any way next year. Sweet that you have all these threads you can go back and read if ever in re-doubt about perspectives. Onward! =)