Permaculture Dating Service

Okay, I am joking... Sort of.  I am recently separated from my wife and in the midst of trying to plan and build a homestead on my own.  I would like to have a partner in the effort at some point, but it seems hard to find permaculture minded  people out in the world.  Here on this forum are so many like minded individuals, some of whom may be single and interested in meeting people and exchanging ideas and growing things together.  It did get your attention didn't it?  I have read non-stop on this forum since I discovered it and just thought I would see what kind of reaction I would get if I posted something a bit off topic.  In the best of spirit---Peace, Love and Happiness  --K

There is a thread for singles right here on this site.
https://permies.com/permaculture-forums/42.0

You might try Green Singles...http://greensingles.com

keithbien wrote:
Okay, I am joking... Sort of.  I am recently separated from my wife and in the midst of trying to plan and build a homestead on my own.  I would like to have a partner in the effort at some point, but it seems hard to find permaculture minded  people out in the world.  Here on this forum are so many like minded individuals, some of whom may be single and interested in meeting people and exchanging ideas and growing things together.  It did get your attention didn't it?  I have read non-stop on this forum since I discovered it and just thought I would see what kind of reaction I would get if I posted something a bit off topic.  In the best of spirit---Peace, Love and Happiness  --K

Why would you joke about that? It is serious!

I empathize.

I am also a permie and in the process of divorce.

We humans are tribal, social animals and don't fare well alone. And separating from a mate is agonizing. Why not create some invisible structures that enable those of us to share the same values to get together and form intimate relationships? I think it is very much on topic!

I was, at one time, a monk. I've done the celibacy thing. Unless there is a very specific life path that necessitates a life apart, I think good permaculture design involves a life partner at zone zero!

Wise words, indeed.  And thanks shiva for the tip about green singles.  I will check it out.--K

The best way I feel is to go to events and gatherings that will have like minded people. Im not saying over the internet to meet people is in any way wrong or bad, but going out to meet people face to face is just another option. Things like farmers markets, PDC's, classes on sustainable living, free lectures, outings in nature. I try to find as many events in my area (the free ones first ) that have to do with sustainable living and being in nature. A good way to meet people in general.

For example I will be going on an outing in a few weeks (Wild foraging hike) where I will most likely be around many like minded individuals who have some of the same goals and intentions in living as I do.

I agree that having a partner to share the experience of sustainable living is great.

I hear you! Especially true when you live and work in a remote area. Greensingles is a good site if you have the patience for internet dating.

Jungle Girl wrote:
I hear you! Especially true when you live and work in a remote area. Greensingles is a good site if you have the patience for internet dating.

There are several "green singles" sites on the internet now. Green-passions.com and earthwisesingles.com are also out there.

I have mixed feelings. I know it's a way to meet those who share some values and are also seeking a mate. OTOH, it feels a little like ordering a life partner on Amazon.com. Doesn't feel like there is a lot of magic there. A process perhaps heavy on preconceptions, short on heart and soul.

I think the advice to get out and participate in activities which put you in proximity to others who enjoy the same things is wise and valuable. It leaves the door open for the serendipitous. Some times, that which the universe holds forth for us is wonderful and unexpected, and preconceptions only hide that gift from our view.

So eloquently stated. I wish internet dating were as easy as ordering books online! Usually on Amazon you can judge a book by its cover at least : )
It often seems like a waste of time to spend hours writing back and forth when in half an hour you could have most of the important information (if you pay attention). Unlike our urban counterparts,  just meeting for coffee is not that easy.
Anyway, there are so many more enriching things to do than "looking".

Not looking to date you.. but.. LOL

Me too getting divorced etc, I answered an add to help on someones property, they are nice folks. Perhaps post your own ad, who might show up? someone for you, if not someone to help out around the farm and offer friendship.

I'd have lunch with anyone who wanted to drive 7 days to get here. I might even buy (lol).  Yes, help around the farm...I just posted a request for someone wanting to do a work trade. Food and accommodations in paradise for help . A good opportunity to exchange ideas. I used to have wwoofers coming down but it is so hit and miss. Most North Americans aren't used to manual labour...or the whole concept of barter.

I've done my share of online dating. I originally balked at the idea because there was no way to ascertain physical chemistry with another person without actually meeting them in person.

But after doing it a few times, I've really come to appreciate it's efficiency. When you're having a 1st meeting with some one you met online, you've already cut through issues that can otherwise take months to figure out (i.e. life goals, religious background, kids, etc).

Just my two cents.

My sister met her partner online about five years ago. After meeting they had a relationship for two years before getting married. They now have a beutiful daughter that I get to hang out with all the time.

I am a bit more extroverted online and am definately more honest as I find it easier to type things and think them through that I normally would not say in person. Not that I'm fake or anything I just tend to keep my mouth shut in person so that I dont put my foot in it! Many times I just want to tell certain people that they are not very clever and should reconsider their positions. That tends to drown the social atmosphere so instead of voicing my opinion I just keep my mouth shut! Online tis a different story. I can think through what I'm saying and figure out how to express ideas which otherwize would just remaign in my mind.

I have met a few people online, roomates, friends, and relationships.  I recently met an aquaintance online but later realized hes a selfish extremist and am now thinking I wont bother meeting him in person although cooincidentaly we have ended up 2hrs away in the same state as opposed to the seven hour plane ride distance we were when we met.

Six of one and half a dozen of the other....

I say dont knock it until you have tried it and its better to get to know a person before you let them too close to you. At least that is how I feel.  Going to something KenPeavey said in another discussion you would be lucky to find people with teeth in the area that I am in... not completely true but there is a huge ammount of roudup spraying, HUGE pick up driving, tobbacco chewing, smelly red necks in my area. Not that I have anything against them but I dont feel that I want a partner like that. So you see online is the best place for me to meet people.

Green singles just sent me an email saying that they made a link to me! Cool! They sent me an email saying that they like permies.com so they made a link and that I don't have to reciprocate. Which I think is really good of them.

So I wanna encourage you singles to pop out and visit them!

29/m Alberta Canada looking for partner.

Like the Way Back machine, bump this topic!
I'm another PDC student currently going through a tough divorce.
Anyone who knows a healthy forum/site for Permaculture people to find friends, new family or dating..post er up here please!
We all need someone to make the dream work.
We all deserve someone to enjoy the fruits of our labor with!

Ro Fara wrote:Anyone who knows a healthy forum/site for Permaculture people to find friends, new family or dating..post er up here please!

The forum where this topic is posted is a great place to meet other singles or even friends.

Here are some threads you might enjoy:

https://permies.com/wiki/153784/Meeting-special-values-similar-permaculture

https://permies.com/t/153706/Singles-creation-describes

https://permies.com/t/151368/Mind

https://permies.com/t/120/92880/meet-men-young-lady

https://permies.com/t/87357/meet-girls-young-guy

I agree dating is hard! I’m single and I live near downtown fort meyers in a permaculture house ..Rboca1@live.com
So hard to meet people .
I’m a 52 year old we need a permaculture dating site

I second (or third or fourth) the idea of a Permies Dating Site. I'm in the older category, healthy, independent, living on my beautiful nine acres in southern Illinois. I don't want to move or move into someone's place. And I'm sure there are many amazing men out there on their homestead who don't want to move either. But we all want some companionship, sharing of resources or at least seeds and transplants, a movie now and then, dinner we prepare together, maybe dancing!!! (COVID really messed that up.) I do peruse the Permies Singles forum but most want to find their 'person' to build their homestead and I applaud that wholeheartedly. It's just not where I am.  If this resonates with others, would love to learn how you're doing the dating thing. Thanks and Happy New Moon!

Hi Yvonne,

There actually is such a site, permie match:  https://permiematch.com/landing.html

It's small and gaining momentum, but perhaps it could be a nice complement to this permaculture singles thread in time, for exactly the reasons you mention. I think all online dating forums suffer from one fundamental problem: there is not personal responsibility such as there more often is in traditional in-person interactions embedded in actual real-life communities. For me personally, I find the nearly constant 'ghosting' by women to be depressing. I don't mean not replying to someone you are not interested in, but the complete abandonment of a 'conversation' nearly mid-sentence without any explanation (i.e., what the cool kids call 'ghosting', which I think is an apropos term). I've heard it's much the same from men toward women, and I imagine would hold true for nearly any gender spectrum combination. It doesn't matter how many dating sites there are if people don't have a concept of old-fashioned decency and respect, in my opinion. Just thought I'd share, not aimed at anyone in particular. I have been more-than-frustrated with online dating to the extent I rarely participate these days, yet live alone in an isolated rural area, which makes meeting someone in-person something like a needle-in-a-haystack. Still keeping hope though. Cheers!

I'm right there with you Yvonne. I would love to have someone special in my life for all that stuff you said, or just to curl up with at the end of a long working day. I'm not completely opposed to relocating, but I've kind of fallen in love with this patch of dirt and my little chosen family that are here, and I think if someone were to give it the chance, they would too. Seems to be a bit more challenging these days, as I'm a little older ( 40 ) and have a challenge or two that seem to put people off. (Or it could just be my "sparkling personality" 😁)

Best of luck to everyone out there!
A.

So how'd  your situation end? Did you and wife make up and move on...details please.
I'm single, forever and am looking for someone to love,  live and grow and live among nature as much as possible!

[quote=Anna Williams
I'm single, forever and am looking for someone to love,  live and grow and live among nature as much as possible!

Anna, I have been single for a few years now. While I am comfortable on my own, I just would rather not be.
I am in East Texas. Where are you located?
Brian