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why I almost never answer my emails

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I'm not good with humans.  Not at all.  If I interact with a real live human in real live life, I like it to be one or at most, two other humans.  Groups confuse me.

However, in writing, I get so nervous when I'm writing to just one person.  Like an email or a PM.  It's petrifying and I find I have to really force myself to write an email to a good friend or colleague.  One on one written communication or phone calls with a human is one of the most stressful parts of my day.  This is why when my inbox gets to 500 urgent emails that need replying to, I just delete the oldest four hundred because they are over a week old and I'm never going to get around to writing back.  Handwritten letters aren't so bad because the other person expects bad spelling and awkward sentences.  If it takes a week or five for me to write back, they understand.  snail mail is slow and it's okay to take time to organize our thoughts before extracting them onto the page.

However, forums work for me.  It's not much different than an email, but I don't find it stressful to write in a forum.  It's also easier to communicate on the forums because we can write something once, and it can reach thousands of people.  Emails are only designed for one or a few people, so I end up writing the same thing over and over and over again. It takes me hours to write one tiny email reply.  I would much rather spend my time creating content that can be shared with lots of people.

I guess what I'm saying is a lot of people have reached out to me these last few months.  I would love to have long, deep, detailed conversations with you all.  But my neurosis just won't let me.  
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I am so very much in the same boat! It's why I feel comfortable up on a stage, but not talking in a group. It's why I can write a weeklyish email that goes out to 46,000 people, but shudder at the thought of communicating with a -book giveaway publisher.

I can do individual emails or phone calls if I'm comfortable with the person and don't have to fear I'm putting my foot in my mouth...that's like family and a few friends that I "jive" with and feel like they understand me. But, an email with a stranger is terrifying!

I really wish I knew why my brain does this.
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I have a totally different reason for not replying to emails. I have two email accounts that just sit there because I can't get back into them. I tried all the Recovery words and they tell me I don't know my mother's maiden name. I haven't seen one of those daily  emails in forever.

I was never much of an email guy, but decided I should have an email account back in about 2009 because people were generating business that way. Now I know that emails generate emails and phone calls generate business for me. I sent my first text message around 2010 and now I do it with voice to text. This seems to work and many of the text message people are either customers or they become customers. So the whole email thing seems to have run its course without me getting too involved.

It has been useful since I started my foreign travels as a way of keeping in touch when other things fail. About 18 months ago I did my first email money transfer. That's a great way to collect money from people when schedules don't allow a face-to-face meeting.

I think the thing that has put me off of emails is getting all sorts of communications that are not wanted. When you don't check very often and then realize there are a few hundred things sitting there it's pretty easy to just not open it.

I'm not bothered by the one on one thing or talking to 8 billion people at once. If somebody gave me a microphone right now I'd go on video call to the whole world at once to either pontificate or sing a song, and I'm in my underpants.
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It reminds me that I have a handwritten and homemmade letter ready to send with some swedish reciepe.Swedish meatballs for example and one very secret reciepe of a local cake based on eggs.Hold on,the letter will be coming!
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