Just remember that the Seller ultimately drives the bus.
Yes, others may try to influence your decison, but ultimately you and your husband are the ones who will say yeah or nay to a buyer. It really is that simple, although in real estate it seems they use a lot of confusion, and foreign terms to try to take away from that, But if you like a buyer, you can be generous and really help them get into it, or alternatively, if you are afraid they might not appreciate your permicultural home, then you can say no.
And while I do recommend a realator, as we are currently selling two of our homes, and never got much interest trying to
sell it upon Zillow, you can still do a lot to sell the home yourself. For instance I put out a 6 page newsletter on our homestead, and print it off. Everyone that views the house gets a copy of it so they can read it later. I do this to stress the importance of homesteading, which is our preferred buyer as we have do so much to make it ideal for farming. Ultimately it is in my best interest to sell the homes, so i will work hard to make it sell, and not just lay back and leave it to a realator. No one knows the home better than I do after all.
I think it has paid off. We have had about 25 couples tour one of our houses, and got 3 offers in 7 weeks of being on the market.
We got two offers now, but one is non-homesteading, and the other currently homesteads and wants something better. We are working with the latter pretty hard so that she can get it. Since I have a lot of farming contacts, we are helping her work with unconventional financing to help her get the homestead. In this case it is with my contacts with the Small Business Administration to get her the farm financing she needs. We are cutting her a really good deal on the house too granted, but she had kind of tossed up her hands when it seemed she did not qualify at first. Do not give up hope yet!
My point is, the seller can do A LOT to get the right person into their home. If a seller goes the extra mile in helping, I think they can find the right buyer.