1. do you have to water elder, no. Will watering improve yields, disease resistance, make harvest and removing berries from the clusters easier, etc.? Absolutely. Elder generally only grow in wet areas - save for some of the varieties that are more drought tolerant - along sinkholes, water run off spots, etc.
2. Per pruning, do you have to prune elder? No. Do you want better yields that are easier to access, increased disease/pest resistance,etc.? Then prune. Also, with elder, the pruned
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