I would recommend this tool ->
https://www.ebay.com/itm/203274121451?epid=9019357854&hash=item2f5414f0eb:g:aeAAAOSwxCVgItdJ
It helps to get an idea of how much power various items pull, and helps to know how much storage you need.
I would advise on your lithium batteries, to not charge them when it is freezing, as it can destroy the batteries, if they are kept warm then they are ok.
I am on the verge of going off grid I have had my power shut off for about 2 weeks now, only thing left is my dryer, and I am getting close to having a solution for that.
Has been years getting here, but very close now.
Also note there are useful tools on the web that help you to figure out capacity of what you need. Also be aware of where your inverter will cut off at lowest voltage.
https://www.batterystuff.com/kb/tools/solar-calculator.html