Paul Eusey wrote:Ummmm... It sounds like an oxymoron... Like the humorous and contradictory thought of a hermit village. Recluse and community don’t really mix. So perhaps recluse is not quite the right word for what you have in mind.
Eric Callahan wrote:Probably basing something off of the extended community/neighbor dynamic would be a good fit. This would also be as important work as any of the more self-aggrandizing, suffocating eco-villages with super high turnover. Not that we can't learn things from those too. But learning how to build extensive community translates much more broadly to a greater number of peoples' sensibilities and capabilities.
I sort of hate the term "ambivert" but I'm relenting a bit because it does somewhat describe me. I need my own space to self medicate solitude with, but I also need to be able to merge into some interaction on a minimally-expectational basis pretty much whenever I want. Good neighbors and a good local watering hole would probably suffice, but I sort of want that on steroids.
Ellendra Nauriel wrote:I think a major part of this would be respect for boundaries. I've noticed that that isn't always a given, especially when the person violating the boundary is convinced that they're "helping".
To complicate things further, some of us were brought up in an environment where we were made out to be monsters for even HAVING boundaries.
In purely physical terms, when I picture a community for recluses, I picture houses with lots of trees and hedges around each one, so a person can step outside and still not see or be seen by their neighbors. A commerce system that allows contactless trades, without any guilt for when you don't feel like making small talk. Areas where people can go to socialize, but with the understanding that some of them might just want to observe rather than participate.
It would be incredibly difficult to create such a place on purpose. But it's nice to dream about.
Seth Gardener wrote:Great idea.
Alot of the communities are full of extraversion, and being very social is almost expected. It would be great to have a community of recluses. I don't see it as oxymoronic at all