posted 3 years ago
Just a gut reaction, I think. Although, when a guy uses the word, which seems like an infantilizing term to me, it can feel kinda pedophilic, depending on context.
I think I hated the word before this happened, but it's usually brought to mind when I hear it. I remember a male teacher in high school saying something to girl in one of my classes about how she was dressed. He was commenting on how all the colours she wore were always perfectly matched and said something specifically about what she was wearing that day. Bad enough, but then he added, "I bet even your panties are pink!" He walked away smiling serenely as if he'd paid her a compliment instead of admitting to imagining what his fifteen year old students looked like under their clothes. I think just about every girl who overheard felt like throwing up, and the student he spoke to literally curled up in her chair as tight as she could and looked close to tears.
So, yeah. Gross and creepy.