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Permies.com is as good as anywhere else. Best of luck.

That magic can last at most 3 years but usually only 2 month.
The part of your brain that produce the big 3, can only do it for so long before it burns out.
So dont let that be all that defines a relationship. Long term commitment, problem solving skills, communication, etc.

Adrenaline
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

Dopamine
Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!

Couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship” .


Serotonin
And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.


 
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Magic and kismet every time over dopamine, adrenaline and serotonin.

 
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If she is a real person, then I hope she will come back.
 
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Rion Mather wrote:If she is a real person, then I hope she will come back.



Yes, we do too!
 
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I'm as real as these winter nights are long....I deleted my post because I felt a little nervous I suppose, for throwing myself out there.
Happy New Year, may we all find what we're looking for.
 
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Just love Alabama Shakes, thanks for sharing.

Good luck Cara. I hope you find what/who you are looking for as well.
 
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It may be scary but putting yourself out there has great rewards. I have met some of the most amazing people on this site by opening up. There really are treasures here.
 
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As scary as it is the magic doesn't work till you cast the spell and to cast the spell you have to put yourself out there even if it' s just a little bit at a time. Magic is not as cold and clinical as some suggest.
 
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Thank you, maybe I'll give it another shot. Magic rules.
 
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@Cara - I am sure we all understand your trepidation. "Putting oneself out there," as the say, requires boldness, the willingness to risk hurt. But I was impressed by your post, before you pulled it, and they also say "nothing ventured, nothing gained," so I for one hope that you dare to take another stab at it, for your own sake and for ours : )
 
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