posted 2 weeks ago
My experience with addiction (relatively mild--it involves chocolate) I will share. I also did drink coffee at one time due to some social pressure, but for whatever reason it was easy to quit (maybe chocolate replaced it? anyway I knew it messed with my sleep.)
Any kind of self-prodding in a negative way seems to be a good way to ensure that an addictive pattern repeats itself. It seems to me we have to be kind to ourselves in a radical way in order to bring about change, by replacing prodding, sedating, stimulating, or any kind of forcing, with nurturing, nourishing, and sensitivity to the body's needs.
This seems a little odd. After all, why don't we replace a stimulant addiction with a more stimulating lifestyle? Why shouldn't it work?
We reach for stimulants because we are tired. Perpetually tired from trying to do too much too fast. If we slow down, a lot, then it is easier to de-addict from them. We have to practice self-restraint, do less, rest more so that our body/mind becomes fully recharged and we become more full, more inherently alive and energetic. Only when that happens can we tentatively--slowly--cautiously--go back to normal. It doesn't matter how long or how short this process takes, we have to see it to its conclusion. And then do it again whenever we feel a craving arise in us.
Then if we are still not energetic we can address some things to do with our health generally. Are we getting bad air or good air? Is our physical activity balanced? How is our food, are we eating enough? Circulation? &c.
For sedatives, it's more or less the opposite, though I never drank alcohol and tend not to feel an attraction to those types of medicines/drugs/whatever. But I have had poor sleep and it tends to be that finding something wholesome and emotionally nourishing to do throughout the day and especially into the evening is important. And most especially if you have had any intense physical activity that day. Again paradoxically, I've found that singing in the evening, even occasionally texting with a friend (but phone calls are always better of course!), tends to send me to bed in a good way and I feel better able to sleep for it.
So it is a radical way of leaning into the body's wisdom rather than pushing against it, in summary.
I might end up making a cider press post about this too, as I have more to say on the topic, and it involves spider webs...
One can never be too kind to oneself or others.