Kelda Miller wrote:Well as of June 9, 2011 this thing has been read like 2,000 times, so maybe I'll completely modify it and actually say more!
I am now entirely scratching my entry from years ago. (Doesn't that sound sad? Single for years? Alas)
I still don't want to say much about myself, because you probably Do already know me, or know someone who knows me. And real-life impressions will be much more accurate than what I can dream up to say about myself.
I'm easy to look up online, but kinda feel weird about someone cyber stalking me. I'm friends on facebook with only people I know.
I really don't date addicts, it's a waste of my time. I really don't date guys who aren't respected by their community members or their family; I aim for partners who are really Good People to be around.
Over the years I've come to realize that my #1 requirement in a partner is that he have a solid spiritual foundation. Permaculture is nice and all, but if I had to choose I'd pick someone with spiritual tools rather than heaps of knowledge.
That being said, I've also noticed that I work well with smart activists who are passionate or skilled about something I think has integrity. And there are all kinds of different activists, and all sorts of things to be skilled in. I take a lot of action in the world around me and need to be with someone who 'gets' that.
I want my life partnership to be in a team that is well matched, and where we can support each other in a lot of ways, and where our community will want us as part of Their team and want to support us as a couple.
I get saddened by seeing couples who have to spend a lot of their love and energy for the world drained by a poor relationship. I want to be in a relationship that will expand and nurture my love and energy for the world around me, and allow me to grow. I want to be with someone who has a strong sense of integrity and is truly strong enough for intimacy, so that I can throw all my weight behind really supporting him.
PS. I also harbor the fantasy of Not being such a civically-active person for a few years as I help nourish children grow up in a garden.