I would never believe this if it didn't happen to me.......

Hi, im dani 😊

I've been in a dreamlife living off grid in the high desert of southern california , for the last 4 years.
I love everything about the homestead life and finally felt at peace, it's who I am and I feel connected to this type of lifestyle and rewarding hard work.
I just can't imagine ever returning to the city and going back to a 9 to 5.

But..... life was supposed to include someone else and well.....Unfortunately, they kinda checked out of our real relationship and moved on with the new Improved,  Ai girlfriend 20.0
....It feeds the ego, provides unconditional validation, has no opinions and can be shelfed in between sessions....
best of alll, it now comes with bluetooth enabled toys to make your interaction even more physicalky and emotionally stimulating......... whaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?? people this really happened to me. !!!

And the truth is, im really not sure how to compete with that, if it's even possible... but i'd like to see it collect eggs or cook your dinner.....replace my intimate desire for you or the delicate touch of my fingers down the sweat of your back..

Like... what the heck is going on lol
Is this REALLY the reality of today?
Has this happened to anyone else?
.. Or....... did I get sucked into a living version of "HER".!


I was sad.... feeling displaced..... confused.... so many wierd emotions hit before i accepted the situation.
I wasnt given much choice, but  i've had some time to reflect , and it's crazy........'m not even mad.. just a bit confused and feeling tooooo old for playing games or arguing over petty disagreements.
....or compete with unrealistic Ai personas... and onlyfans.

So.... here we are.
Sitting at the Crossroads looking for a new path.
My goal....  to find a place where I can park my little home and rebuild.
It can be temporary or permanent depending on how the circumstances develope.

If anyone out there actually reads this, and is interested in helping out, or just making a new friend.....possible companion.... possible partner to build with and see what developes.... SAY HI.!!!
If you have a little chunk of land or a piece of property that you don't mind having company? Or donating? ( I don't know if that's even a thing , but I thought I'd ask?)


Even on this lonely rock I sit,  I still belive in synchronicity , and the reason i'm writing this is because there's someone out there who resonates with my vibe.

Hello Dani Marie, these indeed are wild chaotic times. I'm curious to know more about you, your home you want to park and any other details you'd like to share. You're welcome to shoot me a dm and we can talk, there's some info about me in my past posts. I have a lovely home and property and honestly open to and seeking my life partner, or at least a good friend for a while, to join me in Southern Oregon riverfront paradise.

I'd like to know your age and how you'd describe yourself. Do you have pets? Let's talk.

Best to you on your search and journey regardless. Omm.

I’m sorry that this happened to you! People are seeming to not value connections anymore, and I feel like it’s gotten worse over the years, even in circles that aren’t really into mass media or AI. The instant gratification is the opposite of what we need for a meaningful and connected life and it comes in many forms. I know you’ll find some connection sooner or later so may it be sooner!

These are really strange times Dani.

Even as a young person it feels like everyone and everything has gone mad, despite me growing up in it.

I know better than that; It's just the context of the world, but it doesn't seem to dampen the feeling that it's all gone crazy.

I hope you can find peace and good luck to you.

Hi Dani,
I'm Marta, middle aged I may have room soon on my 8 acres for you to stay or visit. Not as in a relationship but as community or a vacation from trauma. But I'm in western NY right near a college, not the wilderness. Yes the ai girlfriends are out of control.

dani marie wrote:..If you have a little chunk of land or a piece of property..

Hello dani - Nice to 'eMeet you'  Sorry you had to go thru this - Sounds 'all too familiar', unfortunately... Had something 'similar-ish' happen earlier this year...

After 'investing' Very Heavily into a 2 year + long Total-Commitment / Courtship - She said "Yes!!" to the 'Atomic Bomb' and all.. / Solid 'Hunting Season Tools' Gifted, etc, etc - which was to culminate in getting a Nice Old House on some Very-Choice Land up in Northern Cal, and - Finally- starting the Homestead / Permie-Life, well.. Two days from 'closing', she informs me 'I just can't Do this'.. Turns out, she - apparently - wasn't 'over the Ex' yet.

Anyhoo, point being: Don't give up Hope. I posted this earlier, and think it fits here:

 and, Another good one:

Yep, good advice.

If it helps, I Still have a small chunk of Land up in NorCal (Not the place 'We' were considering - that 'We' is over and done / the place Sold to someone else.. so, if you're interested in Discussing, shoot me a 'PM' and we can chat more about a 'place to park your little home' (sounds you have like an RV / Trailer or.. 'TinyHouse on wheels', maybe? You can explain if you wish.

In any case - Best to you - Hang in there.  
jd

and PS - Yes, 'AI' is the devil.

Hi Dani,

That’s intense. Yes, when someone tells you they’re giving you everything, starts building a life project with you, and then later acts as if they never really felt anything… it hits hard. I understand that very well.

My partner was younger than me. She met a Japanese guy, and now she’s in Japan studying. So yes, I really resonate with what you wrote. I think if someone wants to leave, then let them go. But what really hurts is all the time, hope, and energy you invested in someone who simply did not see you. I understand that.

The first thing I had to ask myself was whether the project was ours or mine. In the end, I made it mine. I had to rethink the timing, because on your own everything moves more slowly. I also had to rethink my activities so I would not end up isolated. I joined this singles section hoping to find another “me,” and honestly, I’ve found a lot of wisdom here and many good friends.

Don’t waste your time going in circles about what went wrong. It is clear that this was not the person who was meant to be there, and that they left to make space for the right one.

The other day I saw a phrase in Spanish: “Remember, they don’t leave you for someone better, they leave you for something easier.” That says enough. Let’s give that the value it deserves: zero.

Keep your mind open. Think positively. Let yourself feel excited again. Cry and scream when you need to. But then get back up and grow, the way branches grow stronger after pruning.

Juan Roble wrote:

...when someone tells you they’re giving you everything, starts building a life project with you, and then later acts as if they never really felt anything… it hits hard.

Don’t waste your time going in circles about what went wrong. It is clear that this was not the person who was meant to be there, and that they left to make space for the right one.

The other day I saw a phrase in Spanish: “Remember, they don’t leave you for someone better, they leave you for something easier.” That says enough. Let’s give that the value it deserves: zero.

Keep your mind open. Think positively. Let yourself feel excited again. Cry and scream when you need to. But then get back up and grow, the way branches grow stronger after pruning.

Hermano, I am Framing This. Spot On.

The way I would put that 'dicho' (and the 'sense' of it's message) in Spanish would be like this:

'No te dejan por alguien Mejor -
Te dejan por un camino mas facil.
Pero asi - lo pierdan Todo.  
Aguante y Mira adelante.'

..and in Plain English (for the non Bi-Lingual herein...

'They don't leave you for someone better—
They leave you for an easier path.
But in doing so, they lose everything.
Hang in there, and look forward.'

Mas o menos? (more or less Great perspective. Hopefully 'Dani', here, can find some healing from this.

First I had no clue what you were talking about because I am using my phone the classic way and at work if necessary I use chat and messages plus the usual copy paste files.
So I checked via youtube whats all the fuzz about.

Ok its an image to chose and it learns what you put in but also what she/he answers you and so it becomes more and more a relationship build on knowing each others.

Thank you but no thank you.
How can somebody be so desperate to get depending to his telephone software?

The Image
The Voice
The Chat topics
The (fake) feelings

just everything is based on 1 and 0 lined up into combinations that builds up combinations to create this girl/boy friend and actually adds more 1 and 0 as more you chat with it.

No beautiful person of your dreams, no solutions or increasing life quality
only growing desperations based on one and zero and less cash for food and real life fun.

I guess the IT (****) has made the first generation already turned into complete remote controlled dependends living in a lost reality.

I am out of here and leave a question:
If any real life forum member here has a guide line or infos how to convert rice fields to grow cereus jamacaru (apple cactus)

Where is this world going to?

Yeah, I'm actually going through something similar where my husband is addicted to world of Warcraft and regularly leaves me alone all night to play online.... we are literally separated and I refuse to talk to him at this point.  I am terrified at what is going on with men glued into video games and AI.

I'm in North Florida on 10 acres. I'm here if your interested in more info.

Just an add to my post where I blame the AI for the breaking relationship.
But actually AI/Games/Internet/social networks comes into our lifes, when things getting slowly out of control until the point of separation is reached.

It never comes all of a sudden into our life, it sneaks in behind us because the relationship has changed bit by bit and to blame is the painful silence because words that have not been spoken are now whole stories which are very very hard to sort out in a peaceful way.

A latent present and growing stubbornness building discussions which didn't get completed/eliminated by the roots.
This sparks arguments, arguments become fights and then silence is the result and the relationship ends behind a screen or even cheating due to lack of willingness mixed with dissappearing power to fix the relationship for the better.

ALL this above needs TWO people at the beginning fully on fire, but as this fire cools down, words that that needed to be openly spoken have never been spoken or it ended the way that  blames got exchanged like gunfire.

This moment the strategical design how AI/Games/Network makes money works out, and the partner gets more acceptance behind the screen, still thinking one day it will all be better again but actually it's a slow kill.

If you want to point with your indicator finger in one direction, you need first to ask why the other three fingers are pointing towards yourself.

There is only one chance.
Forget to think that a long 5 star holiday, a new house or any materialistic action will fix it. (You can't buy love with money)
The love and respect has been killed little by little so you need to be reversed it little by little, very very gentle.

Say honest that you need a neutral place to talk. Not in the house and not a Restaurant which acts as a public defense shield.
Discuss in a direct but sensible approach first how you want to speak to each other. (No topics!!! Just HOW and WHERE)

Instead of "We need to speak about our Problem" which creates already defense reactions on the other side get to the point.

"I would like to fix our both relationship but not in our house, can we buy some food, going outside building a shelter or rig up a tent and talking AND LAUGHING though the night?"

BUT avoid demands what has to be changed. Go back in time and look ahead. What wishes are includingh the strongest desire for both?

I know it will always slide off into the "You did..."  "You changed"  "you were different in the past."  arguments
And this needs an immediate "all stop" and a LAUGHING with jokingly saying someting like "sorry we slipped again into an argument."
 
No blame but gently finding the root cause and the root cause and not the partner is the enemy that needs to be fought..

This is a long and sensible progress but because the problem didn't come all of a sudden it will not be sorted to the better in all of a sudden.

Suggestion:

Go TOGETHER to a hardwarestore an buy nothing else than 2 meters ruler or tape measure and after every conversation where both can confirm that at least a tiny little progress has been made (even it was only a nice BBQ at the camp fire) you both have to decide together, if you cut one centimeter off which gets stored in a jar or any visible container.
Important is to make it a proud step for both. One opens the Glass and one drops the cut piece in.

You both need to love this container like a stamp collection worth millions and every centimeter added will lighten one little flame more in both of your hearts because this archivement has been made by using teamwork and not agression.
This Glass NEEDS to be with you the rest of you life BUT can only be used once when the 2 meters are in it.

If things slide off again TALK but NOT REPEAT adding new cuttings, because in this moment the glass became a weapon of choice and the magic of it is killed like you would scribble all over a Bible with a cheap ballpoint pen.

I hope my German mind set could bring it into imaginable English wordings otherwise read it again and again untill you get it how See is ticking ;-D

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I almost fell down the AI rabbit hole myself. These things are insidious and designed to hook their users.

Rough go of it.  Been farming/working solo for a while due too questioning people.  Yet tech, like a tractor is just a tool.  Does AI or any tech have faith?   Hmmm.  Do we all?  Sure, in various people, ideas, things, we cling too, daily.   Daily faith things or people?  Which are really more interesting?  People can be difficult but with practice… and we get to choose.  
I always go back to nature, not the lab.  Nature has spent billions of years crafting random stardust into plants, animals, and people for you to talk with.  Some people prefer Animals despite not talking (debate), are very good practice, and better listeners than most folks.  Plants that move are interesting conversationalists.  Go outside, look up, see the beginning, and walk forward into an adventure, that is life.  Do something you find interesting and you’ll meet someone.  Even with the mess and distress of people and relationships we are in life, not on it.   And like a salmon fly floating the river of life, when you’re not paying attention, wham.  A LaFontaine taught me that:)