This is the DVD set I mentioned (which I have, and recommend). There are a number of purchase/viewing options. It is a pretty quick and easy way to get up to speed on many points concerning RMHs:
http://www.woodburningstoves2.com/
I would also recommend buying "the book" by Evans, Rocket Mass Heaters (2014 edition):
http://www.amazon.com/Rocket-Mass-Heaters-Ianto-Evans/dp/0966373847/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1434897353&sr=1-1&keywords=rocket+mass+heater
It's only 120 pages and a quick read. Page 28 offers a great summary/overview as I recall. Also, study the appendixes. This is the best way I know of to get up to speed on this material. If you don't care to spend $20 and an afternoon reading, then building your own
RMH is most likely not for you

conversely, if you devour this info and want more, a RMH may very well be right up your alley!
The one topic it does *not* cover is the batch style RMH as developed by Peter VDB. Fortunately, that is discussed quite thoroughly over at Donkey's forum:
http://donkey32.proboards.com/thread/734/peterberg-batch-box-dimensions
Although, there are some threads on Peter's design here too:
https://permies.com/t/40007/rocket-stoves/Results-batch-box-thingy-Innovators
You'll also need to look into building on a
wood framed floor. The Wisner's have at least one set of plans for doing that. Air movement to draw away the heat from the floor is key. Or, if you have more money, you can install a pier and / or foundation below the mass, as per a more conventional masonry heater, and build on top of that. Either way, you need to look into this and start drawing up some plans, and consider the pros and cons of the various options.
Also plan on a full chimney, meaning one that properly runs out of the roof and has at minimum a 2-foot height above anything within 10-foot radius of the pipe/chimney. Evans' book talks about routing the stove pipe out the wall, near floor level and exiting more like a drier vent than a wood burning chimney. Unfortunately that does *not* seem to work for many persons. Most likely you will need a pipe/chimney just like you would for any other wood burning stove.
I'd also pick up a copy of ASTM-E1602-03, which details safe clearances. This is one of the go-to references when designing masonry heaters.
Also, look up some building details on heat shielding. It'll be easy for your husband, given the back ground you mention. He'll just need a good reference so he can build it to safe specs. (It boils down to sheet metal and an air space behind the metal, and not direct route for heat transmission into the wall/ceiling.)
YouTube has a number of videos and clips done by or showing the Wisner's projects. I'd look at those too. Just be careful about what you see on YouTube, because not everyone there builds safely or reports their results after having used the system they built for at least one heating season (more longer, is more better, of
course heheh). So take YouTube with a grain of salt, and give preference to those hosted by reputable persons experienced with RMH builds.
In any event, that ought to be
enough to get you started. Browse around the above forums and see what you like.