Tracy, I have done a similar task. You definitely want to seal the block since it is not waterproof. I have used a product called xypex, forms waterproof crystalline matrix in surface layer of concrete, as well as brushed on tar like sealers, since you have free epdm, I would try to use it. There are 2 methods of sealing seams, liquid adhesive and tape. You may find
online (Google epdm adhesive), but if you can purchase items at roofing supply house, I would do that, they will also be able to
answer questions. Make sure the liner is tight everywhere, especially on corners. On my epdm roofing jobs, they were always heat seamed with special irons, adhesive and/or tape is easier and cheaper for the diy'er. You will need some kind of terminal bar as recommended in prev post, it can be as simple as treated 1x2 tapconned to block (you will get better grip if you drill into webs or filled cells).
Look into johns manville, " jm.com", they have a big line of sealers and adhesives, they might have one that will attach the epdm to the concrete, you will need different product to seal the seams thotgh.
So now that you have epdm installed, you have to get the foam on. Be careful, some adhesives will melt the foam, need to check compatibility. I have not have had much success with adhesives. I know a door builder that sandwiches foam in the middle of his doors, he spent years trying different epoxies until he found the right one, compatibility with epdm would probably be an issue. What bothers me most is trying to glue foam to epdm that is really not attached to substrate. I use screws to attach the foam, and when the foam is thick (6-8"), I just stack it, use great stuff from Home Depot to glue it to itself and let the dirt hold it in place. If part of the perimeter foam is to be exposed, you need to attach the foam with mechanical fasteners so you can put a protective surface finish on it. There are sheet goods you can use, or lath and mortar. Need to have well fastened foam to do that.
I saw you are thinking of using no protection on the outside of the foam. I know people do that, I don't like it because foam could get damaged by a variety of things. I use delta drain on top of the foam, it protects the foam, channels the ground water to perimeter drain, and keeps the foam clean and dry, ensuring that it maintains its insulative properties. Make sure the foam you are using won't absorb water, such as xps, or eps geofoam. If you use mechanical fasteners to attach the foam, you have a penetration of the epdm that will be pretty hard to seal. Maybe just 6mil plastic on the exterior of foam if cost is an issue.
You said French drain, to me, that says a hole filled with gravel that works well until you reach its capacity and then can have too much water until it seeps away into the ground. If you can, run a perimeter drain to daylight, much better in long run. If not, I would rethink the epdm material. You won't be able to seal the epdm at the bottom, and if water collects at footer, it will wick up the block and cause moisture issues inside crawl space. Not only is concrete not waterproof by itself, it will wick water up, that's why builders use sill moisture barrier and code requires treated lumber for sill plate. (It did not look like you used a liquid applied capillary break on top of the footer, that helps stop the wicking action). In that case, I would use a brushed or rolled on liquid sealer. Make sure perimeter drain is at bottom of footer, and let epdm go to bottom of footer and even run horizontally a little to direct water away from footer into perimeter drain.
Good luck with the
project, what you are doing is great for insulating the crawl space, and keeping it dry, but has some complicated parts that, if not done correctly could cause you head aches in the future.