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i hate closed head injury, short term memory loss

 
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this morning my hubby walks up with a bucket of product from my garden, all very much overgrown, obviously and wondered if any of them might still be good???

Yeah they would have been had he left them alone, they were being saved for going to seed !!!
Not any more, how many times can you tell them, and have them forget..thousands I guess.

He meant well..
 
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put smoe kind of marker or sign
 
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He can't remember, so telling him just won't work.  Make BIG signs, as suggested above. 


(I have a brain-injured relative, so I can relate to the frustration to some extent)

Can you make soup out of them? 
 
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Sorry to hear it Brenda.  I bet your great at making lemon aid from lemons!

Maybe you can toss a light deer net over the plants you want left alone - this way it's blocked off sort of.

 
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Last year, I spent 6 months living with my mother and her Alzheimer's. No matter how well you know they can't help it, it can still drive you up the wall.

I know you have been coping with this for a long time. I think you are a hero!
 
                    
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Im a vet, a THI survivor; My heart goes out to you both.  Garden on, its the best medicine.
 
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I don't know how you both do Permaculture AND care for your husband Brenda. Btw thank you so much for answering so many of my questions.
 
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Ludi Ludi wrote:(I have a brain-injured relative, so I can relate to the frustration to some extent)

Can you make soup out of them?   

I'm pretty sure it is illegal to make soup out of relatives.
 
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I know it's exhausting Brenda.  Hang in there
 
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thanks for the replies..

yeah I think it is illegal to make soup out of your relatives..tee hee

well everything is under a couple of feet of snow now so he won't be pulling up anything else..i figure the deer might have eaten them before spring anyway.

yeah it is hard doing permaculture when he undoes it..sometimes..but I wouldn't want to do anything else.
 
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Brenda, it is amazing all that you do--including helping out your hubby!

For what it's worth, I used to tell my kids' dad, 'leave the little seedlings, don't hoe or rake them out, because I want to see what self-sown plants they are, and I will probably save or transplant a bunch of them.'

He supposedly wasn't brain damaged, but he would forget every time and they would all be gone!! And I do think it was honest forgetting, not just pretending to forget because he wanted to do it his way.

It was frustrating, so I think get what you mean at least a little!
 
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I'll tell you a little story, similar to yours.

When Ron and I first got married and bought this property, my FIL owned it and was building a home next door to it. There were only about a half dozen trees here and I am a tree lover so I was planting trees, shrubs, flowers, anything I could beg borrow or steal cuttings of.

I would take stakes and ribbons and mark everything, or put wire around them to mark them when I would transplant them..even had a couple dozen sprouted acorns from my sister's home and planted those in a row across our front lawn.

Well we were not aware that my FIL was coming down with Alzheimers at the time so I couldn't figure if he just hated me, was jealous or didn't want me planting things in my yard..but he had a riding lawnmower and he would come over once a week and mow down every single tree or plant that I put in..every one..

I cried and cried and cried.

Finally I saved up enough $ to put in the lattice fence that you see in the photos of my front yard in the blog (by my signature)..and then I planted the trees on both sides of the lattice fence putting heavy wire cages around them with real steel stakes..now you can se I have trees growing up.

Eventually he got too ill to use the riding mower, and I was able to realize he had been sick and forgive him..but early on I was convinced he hated me..and maybe he did..but now I'm dealing with his son pulling up my plants..what goes around, comes around i guess.

they say alzheimers may be heridetary so there is a good chance that on top of the head injury Ron may be coming down with that as well..but the short term memory loss has been getting worse since his head injury # 1 in 1985 when he went through the windshield in a  head on accident(not his faul) and # 2 when he fell off the ladder in 2002 and landed on his head..several smaller head injuries after that when he either hit his head or things fell on him and hit his head..he is now mentally and physially disabled from the head injury and other physical problems
 
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Denston, would you tell me about your head injury sometime?
 
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