I see a few options... Use it, throw it away, stop buying plants from nurseries that use the stuff, be more careful at the nursery to avoid bringing chemicals home.
The fertilizer has already been mined from the Earth, and manufactured. So it seems wrong to me to bury it in a landfill. I wouldn't mind recycling the nutrients through the ecosystem though. There are plenty of wild areas that could use a little
boost of nutrition that are not immediately used for food: lawns, barrow pits, etc.
I don't eat wheat, so when I get a meal at a restaurant, I say, "Don't put any bread on my plate." I can imagine saying something similar to the clerk at a nursery. "I don't want the fertilizer."