Updated singles post - SWM

I think it is time I create a new singles post.  I posted one here maybe 5 years ago.  I requested that it be deleted as my life has changed and I have matured and I am still single.  

My name is Judson.  Most permies know me through my weekly posts as a Master Herbalist.  Herbal medicine and writing are how I make my living.  I have written 7 books so far, with cookbook due to be published soon.  I make my living writing, mostly.  I also do plant walks, teach, cook and play a little music occasionally.  I am kind of an oddball.... definitely a man out of time if not place.  I live the life many on here seek.  

I live deep in the woods, in the Appalachian Mountains... not off grid, but with little need of or use for modernity.  I garden, forage, hunt and fish.  I admit to being a bit obsessed about food - quality ingredients and cooking techniques.  That is actually what led me to study Permaculture and related subjects.  I grew up on a generations old farm in eastern NC.  My grandfather was a pioneer of Permaculture before it had a name.  He was a natural designer and agrarian, builder and entrepreneur,  I am an old-fashioned southern man with old fashioned values.  I believe in family and working with the land.  

I am politically conservative and a very orthodox Catholic.  I would say, traditional, but that entails an obsession with the Latin Mass.  I study Latin and would prefer to attend a Latin mass, but I am not obsessed with language.  Jesus spoke Aramaic.  The apostles spoke Aramaic, Hebrew, Latin, Greek... etc.  

It is kind of tough to live as a Catholic where I live.  Nearly everyone is evangelical Protestant.  While I am ecumenical almost to a fault, I face a lot of anti-Catholic bigotry.  I don't tolerate bigotry in any form.  I do live by very specific morals and ethics though, which not only include loving my neighbor as myself, but monogamy and the sacrament of marriage.  The doctrine I follow is that marriage is between one man and one woman, for life.  I cannot date divorced women unless they have been granted an annulment through the Catholic Church.  I know this offends many who are divorced due to the fault of their ex-husband or because of a youthful mistake.  I am sorry.  All I can do is be the friend of such a lady and, if she values me enough, ask her to seek an annulment.  In all honesty, I rarely meet any single ladies over the age of 18 who are not divorced.... and none have valued me enough to seek annulment.  That is the main reason why I am single.  I waited and still wait to meet the right one, so that I may live as my grandparents and great grandparents did - marriage for life, 50 or 70 years+ together with a house full of children.  As I said, I am old fashioned.  

Beyond that.  Well, I am in transition as I have finally realized that my 100 year old cabin in the mountains really is only a seasonal home and i need more land.  I am strongly considering very rural, Appalachian areas of Virginia and Tennessee, with plans to buy 50-100 acres and, preferably, an antebellum home.  I grew up with horses, and I want to have some again.  I want more than anything in this life to meet and marry the right woman and have a family.  Frankly, if I do, she will have to be as much as an oddball as am I.  My lifestyle is not one of glamour, travel and shopping.  Mine is more like something out of the Foxfire books or an old movie.  I don't like antiques and old ways because they are old - I like them because they are quality.  It is hard for me to define exactly what I am looking for in a lady.  Age does not matter much, but I hope and pray to find a lady who is young enough to have children.  I long for a family.  I don't mind adopting, at all.  I don't mind a lady who has been married before, so long as she can accept my beliefs about marriage and annulment.  I recognize such concepts are very opposed to modern culture.  But modern culture is opposed to most everything I am and what I believe.  

I'm not sure what more to say about myself.  I am 6'4", strong and healthy.  As an herbalist, I have had no need of doctors for more than 20 years.  I'm smart and responsible, self-employed and independent.  I cook very well.  I have worked very hard in life to have no debt, nor do I wish to ever incur debt again.  I place a huge value on personal independence but have a strong sense of duty to family.   I am very peaceful and laid back, but also very protective of women, children, old folks and anyone who is weaker than me.  I will not hesitate to fight if i have to.  I hunt in an ethical manner for meat, not trophies.  I adopt every stray and abandoned critter I find.  I am tough emotionally and physically, but I have a very soft heart. I play a dozen or so instruments, have shelves full of books, fix my own old truck, do plumbing, etc.  I laugh easily.  I mostly listen to music pre-1960.  I love old jazz and country.  But, I am not a music snob.  I grew up on punk rock and New Wave... and even dig the Bee Gees.  My favorite rock band is Motorhead.  All of that music is from at least a generation before i was born.  The only 90s band I liked was Social Distortion... okay, Blind Melon too, and nothing from the 2000s impressed me except for the "Oh Brother Where Art Thou" soundtrack.  I can be a little cocky, but I am very humble at heart.  I am not proud; I just know who I am and what I am not.

So, that is me.  I am sure no one is wondering "Why is he single?"  The why is obvious.  I am an oddball seeking a unique woman.  I am kind to all and friend to anyone who is friendly, but I am unable to compromise on my core values and beliefs.  I have to be true to myself and uncompromising in the face modernity in order so to be.  I do hope there is a lady somewhere who will read this and realize that I am the missing piece in her life.

Antebellum_architecture
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Antebellum_architecture
The features associated with antebellum architecture were introduced by people of European descent who settled in the Southern states during the colonial period and in U.S. territories after the Louisiana Purchase of 1803 along with a wave of immigration from Europe in 1812.[9]
Great numbers of Europeans seeking economic opportunities emigrated to America after Napoleon's defeat and the end of the war of 1812.
This new wave of entrepreneurs began to dominate not only the economy, but also the architecture of the first half of the 19th century.
Good luck with your quest, but why this style?

John C Daley wrote:Antebellum_architecture
From
Antebellum_architecture
The features associated with antebellum architecture were introduced by people of European descent who settled in the Southern states during the colonial period and in U.S. territories after the Louisiana Purchase of 1803 along with a wave of immigration from Europe in 1812.[9]
Great numbers of Europeans seeking economic opportunities emigrated to America after Napoleon's defeat and the end of the war of 1812.
This new wave of entrepreneurs began to dominate not only the economy, but also the architecture of the first half of the 19th century.
Good luck with your quest, but why this style?

Thanks, I do actually love the Greek revival style.  But, I am leaning more toward the more literal sense f the term, meaning before the war,  That means before the Civil War.  Colonial and early American appeals, as well.  

It seems we have a ton in common so if you're still looking please PM me....hoping you're doing well and hope to hear from you soon!  

Hello Judson, It is the first time that I enter this page, but I find it interesting to know about you, I would like to know you better if you allow me, thanks

Judson, Cody here from east Texas sending a howdy your way. Being a man, I'm afraid I can't (will not) be of much direct assistance in your quest for a wife; however, I thought I would comment on your post with the aim to give it a little "bump" and move it on back up to the top of the threads, haha. You are one of the ones who have provided a rather decent write-up of yourself, what you do, what you have done, and what you are seeking to do, and surely that will be of help in crossing paths with the right woman. Sure, it will weed a lot of people out rather quickly, but that is just a time and energy saver, and will help narrow it down a good bit.

Yep, you being a Catholic would certainly lead to some interesting friction in your neck of the woods in Appalachia. I'm neither Catholic nor Protestant, but I don't envy you those less than pleasant interactions, haha.  

Ahh, the hills and valleys of Appalachia. I haven't gotten to see enough of those areas, but I have been through and in and out of a chunk of western North Carolina and east Tennessee, and man oh man, it's having so much of my closest family here in east Texas that would be the primary restraint on me shooting to eventually acquire a piece of land to build on over in Appalachia somewhere, someday. Pull together the building, carpentry, log hewing, timber framing, stone masonry tools, etc to build with, get the right piece of land, site a house well, and craft a comfortable, durable, long-lasting, aesthetically and tactilely pleasing abode of timbers and stone, probably exhibiting some combination of timber frame, stone masonry, and half dovetail hewn log (love, love loooovvve, half dovetail hewn log). A house that friends want to stand and look upon in quiet wonder. A house that friends can't help but be tempted to touch and run their hands over, feeling it's hewn timbers. A house built to be passed down from one generation to another. Something that nobody wants to bulldoze down, that they can't bear to do so. I think on it a lot, and of doing some form of this someday.

I will be sending you a message at some point about an entirely different topic-that of your work in the fields of foraging, gathering, wild edibles, herbal medicine, etc. It has recently come to my attention that you have put together not one, but multiple, books on these subjects, particularly as they pertain to the southeast US, and though I am over here in the piney woods of east Texas, that is still of great interest to me, and I'll be reaching out to ask more about those books soon, when I get a chance. But I'll leave it at that for now, as I don't want to entirely derail your "Singles" post.

Best wishes to you Judson on this quest of yours, and may our God be with you.

Cody Hahn wrote:Judson, Cody here from east Texas sending a howdy your way. Being a man, I'm afraid I can't (will not) be of much direct assistance in your quest for a wife; however, I thought I would comment on your post with the aim to give it a little "bump" and move it on back up to the top of the threads, haha. You are one of the ones who have provided a rather decent write-up of yourself, what you do, what you have done, and what you are seeking to do, and surely that will be of help in crossing paths with the right woman. Sure, it will weed a lot of people out rather quickly, but that is just a time and energy saver, and will help narrow it down a good bit.

Yep, you being a Catholic would certainly lead to some interesting friction in your neck of the woods in Appalachia. I'm neither Catholic nor Protestant, but I don't envy you those less than pleasant interactions, haha.  

Ahh, the hills and valleys of Appalachia. I haven't gotten to see enough of those areas, but I have been through and in and out of a chunk of western North Carolina and east Tennessee, and man oh man, it's having so much of my closest family here in east Texas that would be the primary restraint on me shooting to eventually acquire a piece of land to build on over in Appalachia somewhere, someday. Pull together the building, carpentry, log hewing, timber framing, stone masonry tools, etc to build with, get the right piece of land, site a house well, and craft a comfortable, durable, long-lasting, aesthetically and tactilely pleasing abode of timbers and stone, probably exhibiting some combination of timber frame, stone masonry, and half dovetail hewn log (love, love loooovvve, half dovetail hewn log). A house that friends want to stand and look upon in quiet wonder. A house that friends can't help but be tempted to touch and run their hands over, feeling it's hewn timbers. A house built to be passed down from one generation to another. Something that nobody wants to bulldoze down, that they can't bear to do so. I think on it a lot, and of doing some form of this someday.

I will be sending you a message at some point about an entirely different topic-that of your work in the fields of foraging, gathering, wild edibles, herbal medicine, etc. It has recently come to my attention that you have put together not one, but multiple, books on these subjects, particularly as they pertain to the southeast US, and though I am over here in the piney woods of east Texas, that is still of great interest to me, and I'll be reaching out to ask more about those books soon, when I get a chance. But I'll leave it at that for now, as I don't want to entirely derail your "Singles" post.

Best wishes to you Judson on this quest of yours, and may our God be with you.

Much appreciated - I will look forward to discussing foraging and such when you are ready!

Judson Carroll wrote:

I am politically conservative and a very orthodox Catholic.  I would say, traditional, but that entails an obsession with the Latin Mass.  I study Latin and would prefer to attend a Latin mass, but I am not obsessed with language.  Jesus spoke Aramaic.  The apostles spoke Aramaic, Hebrew, Latin, Greek... etc.  

Hi Judson,

What are your feelings on charismatic Catholic churches?  From what I've seen, this is where a large number of Catholic families that are keeping traditional values alive are currently attending.  The standard (non-Latin mass) Catholic churches seem to be attended by an increasingly aging population.  Although there are some families with kids in these churches they seem to be mostly "Cultural" catholics.  

I was home schooled and raised mostly Catholic.  It's a long story but my parents (still married) have attended different churches ever since I was about 7 years old.  It certainly gives one food for thought on topics like this.

Dawn Goryca wrote:

Judson Carroll wrote:

I am politically conservative and a very orthodox Catholic.  I would say, traditional, but that entails an obsession with the Latin Mass.  I study Latin and would prefer to attend a Latin mass, but I am not obsessed with language.  Jesus spoke Aramaic.  The apostles spoke Aramaic, Hebrew, Latin, Greek... etc.  

Hi Judson,

What are your feelings on charismatic Catholic churches?  From what I've seen, this is where a large number of Catholic families that are keeping traditional values alive are currently attending.  The standard (non-Latin mass) Catholic churches seem to be attended by an increasingly aging population.  Although there are some families with kids in these churches they seem to be mostly "Cultural" catholics.  

I was home schooled and raised mostly Catholic.  It's a long story but my parents (still married) have attended different churches ever since I was about 7 years old.  It certainly gives one food for thought on topics like this.

I don't know, really.  Having been raised Southern Baptist, I have a strong aversion to charismatic churches.  I'm fairly reserved by nature.  I'm more the Traditional Latin Mass type, but as there are no such churches near me, I usually attend a regular norvus ordo and read my old Latin missal.  I converted for specific reasons, and it bothers me to see the modern, watered down/modern version... that isn't what I signed on for!

I am in Eastern NC.  Where was your family farm?

Amy Moye wrote:I am in Eastern NC.  Where was your family farm?

It was near Whiteville.