direct way to contact staff or respond to staff moosages?

where is the go to for emailing staff, and/or responding to moosages I get from staff, can't find either.  

Here is good.

https://permies.com/wiki/contact

I hope that helps.

sending PMs to random STAFF members IS NOT the way to go about it.  It is rude to put pressure on one volunteer requiring they help you right away - they have real lives and are volunteers here.  Please be respectful of this.

This is why we do not have a way to reply to STAFF PMs directly.

posting here, in the tinkering with this site forum is the way to go.

But perhaps, you could read the links I suggested in the other thread first.  They answer your concerns.

The name change option should have a link to this: https://permies.com/name.jsp
We also talk about edge cases here: https://permies.com/t/106355/real-sounding-edge-cases