"Robinsonia" looking for her partner, around 50, would share “island”. Can move.

Xisca Nicolas wrote:Who will move?

Note: I did not mean "who is reading me and will move to where I live"
I mean "When I find a soulmate, who will move? He, I or us?"

Xisca Nicolas wrote:... I am not very strong physically, and I suffer from having done some physical work a little bit passed my possibilities. So, I am quite ok with gender adaptability to the daily tasks!

And I wanted to add another photo, as it is quite funny that I said I am not very strong! Well, give me... and I will move the world!!!

And yes, it got down where I wanted...

Hi, please have a look at my site (http://elpocito.wordpress.com). I am looking for a life-partner who wants a simpler/ healthier/ more sustainable and creative life. To join me first in Andalucia, but hopefully to leave as soon as possible and find a place with more like-minded people. Look forward to hearing from you. Phil

Hi Xisca. I read quite between the lines your message. Really I feel conected to it. We share a lot of values. I am new to this community, here is my email: eperez7 hotmail.com. I looking forward to get off grid.

Hi Robinsonia, please have a look to my website and see if you feel a resonance with my lifestyle project...
In the meanwhile you have my admiration for your project and thoughts.

Hi Paolo,
I knew only the specific calabacín from Liguria, but the scenaries are great!
Nice project too, I guess you are going to write a little more in Permies, welcome for you 1st post....!

One thing from my experience....
you write that you are "aware of human nature: the predominance of the instincts, including violence, oppression, envy, speciesism, racism.
I do not condemn these impulses: they are the result of natural selection, the constant adaptive struggle between species and within the same. However I feel an unquenchable pain in participating the fight. For my constitution, I prefer cooperation to competition, generosity to genetic selfishness."

It was good for me to learn that it is not genetic, not the result of selection, but the normal result of neuro-activation that humans no more know well how to expulse from the body. We are ourselves as humans when we can react in the present and without the accumulation of pain. We cannot even do it consciously (the cortex does not control this but interprete the pain into ideas to recover coherence) without discharging this activation, as it can grow into illness, which means that we hurt ourselves.... as bad as hurting others.

You surely deal with this when you treat children after wounds, but the consecuences show after months only, and the relationship is almost invisible.

Hi Xisca, thanks for your appreciation, the reason I'm not sharing what I'm doing on this site is cause it's my first experience and I'm doing my learning, while the people here appears to be quite expert. I'm trying to find a dimension which is something in between the permaculture philosophy, a cruelty free place (I'm vegetarian), with an important component of creativity.
I don't have self sufficiency target but improve my sustainability. My motivation is mainly aesthetic and I have no dogmatic approach to anything, which excludes me quite often from groups, as I put in discussion assumptions.

About your comment, I'm afraid it's not enough just to state affirmation like: "It was good for me to learn that it is not genetic, not the result of selection".
If you deny instincts (genetically imprinted reactions, base of sensations, feelings), where are they coming from? Some God?
"But the normal result of neuro-activation that humans no more know well how to expulse from the body", implies there was a time we were able to do that, when was that?
I think the body it's not a container, but the source of everything we are, I'm an atheist: I think the mind is expression of the body, which is a community of cells with functions configured to survive and reproduce.
I think individualities are side sparks of the giant flow of life. I'm not anthropocentric and always try to put everything in the space-time perspective which is immensely deep.
I'm also a physiotherapist (focused on children) and my experience says there is not a rule about traumas, like you affirm.

And then I like to forget all that stuff and run downhill from a sand dune, possibly together with children.

Ciao!

People are not all experts here, and they also share while learning.

Right, what I say is not enough, but this is just a little post! I am here just to tell who I am in this topic. I feel part of the food chain, I hate violence between humans, as all animal do within their species (they are usually quite specists themselves, except when they are brought up together as shephard dogs etc). For me, counts the quality of life and I do not want CAFO stuff incluiding for eggs. Death does not matter.

I did not write that I deny instincts, I know them well. Their basis is in the body, and we share most of it with all forms of life, even reptiles. But we humans have a little problem for reasons I cannot state here, though we are still able to do it, that is why I said that we no more know WELL how to do it.
Animals still do it more easily than us.

Yes, it is about surviving, but when the process go awry, the defense activation is still running inside the body. Animals discharge it better than us. What we see as violence in humans is only a suffering coming from this inner charge. That is in this sense that i said it was not genetic. Our genetic is made to expulse the energy that was not used. Just imagine you escape a car accident with a very little movement of your driving wheel. But your body got prepared for an eventual bigger issue.
What do you do with this unused energy?
You stop on the side of the road and calm down, very comonly with tremblings.
You can see those tremblings in many utube videos of impala etc escaping from death after having been caught. I have never seen humans tremble so much as this, or even as much as dogs (they still discharge like this too).
In that sense I say that we have lost some facilities for this ordinary discharge, and when we do, we no more fully understand what is happening.

For children or adults, there is no rule about trauma, there are ruleSSSSS. They are so simple that they are complex in their diversity of expression. Porges has already changed a lot of the past paradigm with his poly-vagal theory, but the same line of the somatic Experiencing of Peter Levine is getting wider and wider audience because of its clinic efficiency. And from my personal experience and practise, this is just amazing me more and more.

I just come from a Touch module of SE, and when you can see what can be listened from the body by resonance, and how the body regulates itself alone without any physio work... it can be the activation from anaestesia or a pain that goes away... I remember experiencing even changes in my posture, where my weight is on my feet, I got rid of headaches, and I am working now on an old surgery that still has activation in my body, but too much to let it go all at once. I have aches from this, but they started for some 1 month after the surgery, and much later for others. Even with the knowledge I have, I could not relate all the elements, but it came out from the body directly and now I feel it clearly. I am going to see if i can get rid of this tensions in my muscles!