I feel much the same way. No matter what we do, we impact the environment simply by existing. Even if I pack up and go live in the woods, I still need to harvest
trees for fuel, animals and plants for food and figure out how to clothe myself, make tools and provide a
shelter of some kind. All I can do is try to make the best choices I can.
My guidelines for stuff....
Make and grow what I can manage to make and grow myself. This has meant learning to make
soap, hair gel, and a lot of other things that I consider necessities.
Don't by cheap crap from 3rd world countries if I can help it. It has to be shipped here and a lot of is probably made by 5 year olds chained to machines. It won't last and I will have to go buy another one in a year. The old one will end up in a landfill. This helps no one, including me.
Buy locally produced whenever possible. The cheap crap has run a lot of the locals out of business so its not always possible but I try.
Try not to buy things that involve heavy metals. Cadmium, Lithium, and Cobalt in particular. Until we really solve the storage problem, all we are doing is shifting the pollution to countries who are too poor to complain and the conditions, especially in the Cobalt mines, are just dreadful. We are looking at an off grid
solar system, though, so I am not sure how well this is one is going to hold up to that. I console myself by considering how much propane we won't be burning.
Try to buy directly from the producers for things I can't make myself. If I need a knife, I will have one made by a
local smith. My cooking knives were made for me. The balance suits me perfect and I probably won't need new ones for the rest of my life. (vs getting a new $50 set a WalMart every year or so). Yes, just one of my knives cost quite a bit more than $50 but I don't need to shop for them again ever so I save time and over the long haul, money too. My last purse is one I got from a friend in Argentina who's family raises
cattle and make saddles. They were looking to expand their leather working business into purses and luggage so I worked with Mateo to make a purse that he now sells on line. That was 6 years ago and I got to help out a friend who is now battling cheap Chinese knock-offs on Amazon.
If I do buy something, I try to get a high quality item that I won't be tossing out in a year because its broken or worn out. If I can, I will get something made just for me. I think we have lost sight of craftsmanship so I try to make sure that I patronize craftsmen. You know them when you see them. Everything they put their hands to is beautiful and functional and durable.
I don't need trendy and I don't need to be a walking billboard for the "right" logos to say what clique I belong to. If you aren't the lead dog, the view never changes. I shed that herd mentality of mass consumerism in high school when I realized that my family was poor and I was never going to have the "right" logos because those things were expensive. Then I got a good job, made plenty of money, and realized that I would rather have something of true value and bespoke than some trite mass produced crap.