Welcome to permies.com David.
There is so much information here, I am super excited about you lifestyle change.
Like you I am motivated by health, wealth and self-sufficency.
I like the idea of eating less flour, rice, corn and their derivatives e.g donuts, pasta, high fructose corn syrup, and more nuts, beans, squash, sweet potatoes, potatoes, parsnip/carrots, etc.
Food:
Carbs: Eat and grow: tubers, nuts and seeds, little grains, Warre bee-hive for honey/sugar.
Minerals: Eat and grow cabbage family, spinach family, lettuce family, etc
Herbs: Eat and grow more mint/thyme family, celery family, onion family, etc
Protien: Eat and grow my own Winecap
Mushroom, Oyster Mushroom, beans, fish, eggs, milk/cheese/kefir, chicken/duck, sheep/goat/cow
Fat: Eat and grow my own butter, nut-oil, animal-lard
Food Preservation:
solar dehydration, fermentation, sugaring, etc
I like this
gardening book
alot https://johnjeavons.org/books-and-videos/#BOOK
Water:
To me it seems like a great idea to have a well dug at the very least for a backup, so that it is available just in case, even if I am still connected to grid-water, I would at least want a 20ft stand point well.
Sewage:
I think it is a good idea, to have a code-approved septic system, just in case you have to rent out or
sell your place due to an emergency or need to bank to loan you some money. But that doesn't mean that you have to use it. I like the idea of having 5IBC totes to treat sewage on-site aerobiacally and with worms.
Electric:
I like prepaying for it with
solar panels or if oyu are lucky with hydropower drom a stream on your property.
HVAC:
I like infloor radiant heating with some pex piping. powered by a pellet broiler, or maybe with a heat pump or solar or electric or gas for backup
I like the idea of a very insulated house R-40 on all 6 sides, and with a ERV to help with ventilation
In the winter I like having a humidifier to help with the dry air
Mini-split heat pump/ac unit, so that each zone can be control independently. Also it doesn't even have to cool the house down to 70F it can even be set to 85F as long as it also lowers the humidity
Building:
There are so many ways to build the house. I like the idea of it using the post and beam style and non-load bearing walls, so that even if I sell the house later and someone change a wall, it is still safe/stable. And esp if I need the bank to lend me some money for an emergency, aging in place and getting sick brings alot of uncertaincy. Now for the non-load bearing walls, I can use stick-frame, strawbale, earthbag, stone, cement, brick, etc. The inspector/permitting folks will love to hear that the "exotic" walls are all non-load bearing and will approve it with "no questions asked".
Earthworks:
Food production all starts with the soil. So swales to make it hold more water. Bio-char and woodchip to build up the soil organic matter and the amount of soil life that it can hold. Compost and worm tea and kefir liquid, etc to import more soil life. Cover crop to help with de-compaction from tillage radish/etc, nitrogen/fertility form legumes, herbs for pest control, etc, etc. You can also setup the area for rotational grazing too.
But
enough of my ramblings. I am looking forward the idea and questions that you will share in the future.