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Shari Clark wrote:First of all, sorry for both of your pain. Words said about divorce in the middle of a manic episode do not mean that divorce is imminent, but obviously, that you guys need help. Please consider getting some counselling or help of some kind, if your wife is at all wiling. It sounds like she feels extremely burdened right now and thinks divorce would make things more simple. There are so many things to consider. What is your support system right now? How are you communicating? There is help out there if you are both willing to look for it and try. Sorry that the hospital didn't do anything but suggest divorce but there are other avenues. And yes, social media tends can be a very bad influence, too.
I speak from experience. My husband and I came close to divorce in the first two years of marriage, but a good counsellor really helped heal ourselves and our marriage. This led me to writing a book about it. I believe there is hope for many couples that throw in the towel early on. My thoughts are with the both of you.
Matt McSpadden wrote:Hi LD,
I'm so sorry to hear your story. I'm going through a divorce that I believe is/was caused by post-partum depression. It is very real, and too many women won't get help. There are many sources of depression and many variations. Two things that I would absolutely talk to her about doing is to think about others and diet. Thinking about others instead of ourselves is a very important piece to get through/over depression. Post-partum depression has a huge physiological component to it. If she is willing, I would take her to an ND and ask for a full blood test workup of hormones, minerals, vitamins, etc. I'll bet she has deficiencies and/or imbalances. I'm not a doctor, so take this with a grain of salt, but this two prong approach to deal with the mental side and the physical side should help significantly. The catch is that the person must be willing to accept that there is something going on and that they need help, and most importantly that making a big decision like divorce, when you are in that frame of mind, is a bad idea.
John C Daley wrote:I feel your pain.
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FB may not be helpful with their own issues as well.
Are thjere ways to remove the strain from mother with domestic help?
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