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explore modern dating culture and bring dating apps to real life
 
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I always thought the use of a Resume to determine who was a good job candidate or not, was an incredibly silly way to get an assessment of character and integrity, but to eliminate potential relationships based entirely on physical appearance, just bogles the mind. If a person has so little time that they cannot spend some time getting to know the person they are going to date, then why not just wait until a person can devote the time? It kind of is the root word after all, you cannot be devoted without devoting the most precious thing we all have...time in getting to know someone.

Katie and I met online, but in an advanced dating site, but it was based on morals and ethics, so we both knew where we both were in terms of our character right up front. That helped. Then we emailed for awhile, then talked everyday for a month before we finally met. In short, I got to know her long before we met in person.

If I was buying a flock of sheep I would not "swipe", I would check out their teeth, look for confirmation, check out back-fat, etc; the idea that I would eliminate 24 sheep based on only looks from a flock of 30 is just silly.

But more so I worry about the harm done for those rejected. Yes, in a one time setting it is bad enough, but what does that do to the self-worth of a person who has been rejected three "swiping" times in a row. It would be irreversible mental harm. We got enough of that in the world already. As is, my daughters and wife are subjected to 600 images per day of what the world thinks the ideal form should be. Two of my four daughters think they are "fat", and they aren't even close.

 
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So shallow!  Glad I'm not looking for anyone out there at such a disposable time!  Jeez!

The video missed an opportunity though, i.e. to go one better and allow 10 seconds (or so) for the female's personality to emerge - 10 secs to shine!!!  Oh well.  I admire the bravery of the women to be instantly rejected....of course we don't know how many of them would have wanted to go out with HIM!!!   Ha!

 
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Amy Francis wrote:So shallow!  Glad I'm not looking for anyone out there at such a disposable time!  Jeez!

The video missed an opportunity though, i.e. to go one better and allow 10 seconds (or so) for the female's personality to emerge - 10 secs to shine!!!  Oh well.  I admire the bravery of the women to be instantly rejected....of course we don't know how many of them would have wanted to go out with HIM!!!   Ha!



It is just plain disgusting isn't it?

To me it is really bad because woman are too often judged on their looks, and so they would inevitably be hurt by this system if rejected again and again. But it is no better for men. While we may not be judged on looks so much, we also tend to be very sensitive to rejection.

It is just bad, really bad.

I cannot imagine picking someone to help me on my farm this way. Swipe to the left, the left, the left, okay the right, to the left, to the right...okay I will hire you based on 30 minutes of talking. Hmmmmmm….I wonder that failed? (Rolling of the yes inserted here).
 
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I think the videos are super-funny.  A great satire on the direction the world is moving.  

The Jubliee Youtube channel has a lot of serious stuff and great fun to watch on a rainy afternoon.  But their dating ones are just too funny.  The woman's face in the second video when they say "if any of you men would swipe left, please leave" it shows for a second there that she understood how upsetting it can be.
 
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r ranson wrote:I think the videos are super-funny.



Yes. And yet sad too.

It was too easy to guess which people would be swiped which direction, based on attractiveness.

I would examine the eyes, which takes more than just a moment.  AND footwear, which doesn't work in these videos.  Always could love a person just by the boots they chose to wear.
 
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Ruth Meyers wrote:

I would examine the eyes, which takes more than just a moment.  AND footwear, which doesn't work in these videos.  Always could love a person just by the boots they chose to wear.


Hands. I look at hands. I look for hands that do things.
 
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Pearl Sutton wrote:Hands. I look at hands. I look for hands that do things.



S'Truth!
 
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shoe discrimination is real!
(my shoes have been worn out and repaired again a few times)

video contains swearing

 
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I went to school in a rural area, and there was a school 'pony club' that would meet once a week in the lunch hour.  As the horses I worked with were close to the school, I would occasionally take one to the club meetings. One time I said that I could take one other person with me at the end of the meeting to put the pony back in his field, but it would have to be someone with old shoes as they were likely to get muddy. It was awesome!  All the posh kids hid. And all the scruffy kids stuck their dirtiest shoe forward for me to choose.  And one awesome girl, with a triumphant grin on her face, waved a foot at me in glee with the sole of her shoe hanging off and flapping in the breeze.  I declared her to be the winner, handed her the horse's lead rope, and off we went laughing our heads off at the arse-about-face shoe snobbery.

This isn't the horse in question, but the mobile classroom in the first photo is where we used to meet. He was a three year old in training, and I'd lent him my satchel and scarf for the occasion.







 
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just a quick note about shoe repair... if you use the product: shoe goo
leave the repaired shoes outside for at least a month as it off gasses nasty chemicals
 
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I started this thread as a laugh.  Poking fun at modern culture in the meaningless drivel forum (you know the forum where we post lots of jokes).

I obviously missed the mark and this thread has taken up way too much staff time weeding through the insults and other things that aren't meaningless drivel.  It looks like more posts were removed than kept.

The staff have better things to do with their time than to evaluate edge cases posts from people who know where the cider press is and have enough apples to post there.  So I'm locking this thread and apologizing for my part in causing trouble.  
 
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