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Hey Permies!
I’m finding myself in an interesting place during this socially distanced pandemic, like many other people are, I’m sure.

I have a great handful of extremely close friends that have mostly moved away for greater economic opportunity. This has left a gap in my social life that I deal with fairly well due to my mostly introverted nature but I do miss their companionship. Some of them have hopes to return and build a community with me once they have a solid financial footing to invest into their respective projects, but this is likely years away from being manifested.

I am located in north MS on 100 acres with plans (in progress and on paper)for many different and related permaculture ventures.

Mostly wooded—60%wooded acreage 40%wild pasture. Two 1acre ponds and a 20acre lake bowl with a broken dam that I hope to repair in the next few years.

I am totally offgrid here in a tiny house and improving quality of life daily. I have faced many of the setbacks that people who have attempted offgrid life know very well. This lifestyle isn’t for everyone but the right person/people would appreciate its rewards and strive for a better future with me.

Now, with that out of the way, I’ll try to define myself after a quippy quote from Alan watts: “Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.”

I am an intelligent (sometimes), hardworking, fiercely loyal, and giving person. I work just 3 days a week and play in the woods/pursue my dreams on the other days. I place a huge value on recreational time which is mostly spent with a chainsaw or shovel in my hands.

I am a hunter (bow and rifle), a woodsman, an animal/nature lover. Jack of all trades, master of none.

I am in the flow of expanding my own consciousness while pursuing a more wholesome and peaceful future for myself, friends and family.

For those that care about this type of thing I am an Aries—sun moon and rising. While I laughed these things off in the past, you could probably learn everything you’d ever want to know about me from my natal chart so I’ve been forced to concede that there might be some strange validity to it.

Enneagram type 5,8,2 in that order.

I’m perfectly content with my life in the woods, but I’d love to connect with people that want to pursue a better future with me. And if a loving compassionate partner results from one of those connections, I think that’d be a beautiful thing.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. If nothing else, maybe it’ll be good for others that share my path. It may be lonely at times, but we know we’re doing the right thing. Stay strong and keep building a better world.

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Most recent blurry photo. About 4 months ago.
Most recent blurry photo. About 4 months ago.
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Kayaking with my GSD
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on my cousin’s mountain in VA
on my cousin’s mountain in VA
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Raised beds created last spring
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Great post, James! I hope you find your special someone and some great local friends to tromp through the woods with. Sounds like you're on the right track.
 
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Thanks for your warm response, Sonja. I’m certain that the right people will enter my life at the right time. I just want to be open to that. And the beauty of current technology allows us to reach further out. Im sure lots of people are looking for a place to land and reconnect with the natural world.

I’ll probably use this thread to post some progress pics of the farm and make a similar post in the regional forum in the spirit of “perennial” conversation.
 
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Seems like you are a good person and I am confident you will find your people. This might seem like an odd way to meet people, but I met my wife hiking the Pacific Crest Trail. The Appalachian or Colorado trails which she's done sound great too for meeting good people while having a great time. I have also met some of my favorite people doing Wilderness First Responder courses, internships in National Park trail crews and  Wilderness restoration crews. These may not be exactly your thing (though a Wilderness First Responder course would benefit any homesteader). Whatever your thing is though, where you are being your best self with others sharing your highest values is where I think  you will most likely find your people. Good journey to you!
 
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Hi James, your current social situation resonates very deeply—as I'm sure it does for many people in these interesting times.

Unlike you, however, I feel that my quality of life is deteriorating. I'm in urban Ohio, very much craving nature and a life with less impact. I understand the challenges and that the lifestyle certainly isn't for everyone, but it's something I've dabbled in on several occasions (WWOOFing, time in an intentional community, etc.) and am more than ready to dive into that way of connecting with this planet and myself.

Alan Watts is one of my favorites, so I appreciate that quote. I also appreciate your interest/awareness of astrology. I've also become more familiar with my natal chart recently—and am growing to understand how it impacts my life.

Anyway, I'm not sure what my intention with this message is, but I was feeling totally lost/disillusioned/isolated today (definitely why I ended up scrolling through the Permies Singles forum... haha) and your last couple of sentences really put a smile on my face. So, thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts and your inspirational words.

And right back at ya, stay strong and committed to a life that's more in tune with our planet. I hope that you find exactly what you're looking for
 
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29F here. James you have a beautiful smile. Cute doggo, too!
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So, I’ve been absent from this thread—life, you know?  I just wanted to take a minute to appreciate the kind, uplifting and thoughtful responses you all gave.

I also thought it would be wise to clarify that while the easiest route for me is to set my roots on the land that I already live on, I am also toying with the idea of selling and relocating for a better climate, community etc. Essentially, most of my plans are flexible as of my writing this post.

Ultimately, I would love to live in/ help foster an inclusive community of people who care for each other and the land they call home. Ideally this future of mine includes having a large family of my own.

Also, lots of chickens:
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James really nice place you have seems like pleanty of land and water...hopefully clean spring water...?

Alan Watts..yup that'll do it. "only if the game is worth the candle".. and city life ain't worth the candle...in the long term for me knowing there is places you can drink clean spring water and eat fresh food...although with a bit of sweat involved..not to say that we sit around clicking buttons in the city .


Wow you mention "better climate" I'm further North and think South is generally better climate. COuld you elaborate on what's up with the climate in Mississippi that bothers you?
---OR--- is it the lack of like-minded folks for support that you mean by as in social climate?

Also you mention a bunch of people potentially on your land... and seems 100 acres should be enough to live in community yet have your own space as well...is this what you are exploring here as well as poking around for a potential mate or partner to start your own family with...just asking as I am married and my wife and I have dabbled in back to the land type of life, but plugged back into city life and now again exploring a direction to take. just want to see the scope of your thoughts which of course may change moment to moment and so on...bee well
 
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Ben Gorski wrote:James really nice place you have seems like pleanty of land and water...hopefully clean spring water...?

Alan Watts..yup that'll do it. "only if the game is worth the candle"..

I really enjoy this land; it has become extremely sentimental to me, especially as I learn more of its story. I do have spring water on this property. I drank it straight from the source throughout my childhood and teenage years. However, I’ve become a little more cautious as time goes on, and I now filter it through a berkey filter.

One spring on this land has a tremendous flow rate60-100gpm. I suppose this can be viewed negatively or positively. I believe I have located a total of 8 springs on this land. I have played around with a ram pump and managed to deliver 1/4gpm to the highest elevation out here, though it isn’t sustainable without a better pump/more “hands on deck” during setup. Admittedly rainwater catchment is probably the simplest solution for plumbing. And we get 40-70”/year here. Avg.50ish inches.

I’m loving that other people are digging the Alan Watts reference. I’m certain that I can get on with anyone who finds some entertainment (or more)in his words. City life is certainly not worth the candle. I’ve also learned that the hard way; a “bought” lesson as some people would say.

As for the climate (and yes I was referring to weather in that message) NE MS is prone to the extreme heat and humidity that the rest of the state/southeast is familiar with. We are also prone to random bouts of winter weather. Summer heat and humidity would be my biggest complaint...though it could be viewed as sultry, it is sometimes oppressive. This can largely be mitigated IMO by planned activities and a body of water to seek solace in; hence my plans to rebuild our lake. If I were to “cherry pick” the perfect climate for myself I would probably land somewhere further north in Appalachia. Eastern TN/SW VA. That area has slightly more mild summers and more evenly spaced rainfall throughout the summer months.

I DO think this property is adaptable and capable of handling lots of people. In fact, I think lots of people *could* really make this land sing. Of course, I have come to realize how important a certain level of privacy is and I would want to ensure that for myself/ family and future inhabitants.

As for social climate, there are certainly people around here who share a similar vision. They aren’t the majority, though are they anywhere?  This is mostly raw land however and too big of a leap for most people to take. I can reasonably access utilities if necessary for future inhabitants, but it’s difficult for many to see the potential.

And the food: last year was my first full garden. Without irrigation I grew more tomatoes than I could eat, many sweet potatoes, peas, beans, and the most delicious muskmelons. I tend to focus more on the woods than I do in the garden. From the woods I harvest berries, chanterelles, a few morels, oyster mushrooms, occasional lions mane and the star of the show currently—venison. Most of my calories come from my laying hens and the venison that stuffs my freezer. I’m working towards planting many thousands of chestnut trees and other mast bearing trees in an alley cropping/silvopasture grazing setup. I think this supports wildlife, livestock, and has the potential for being food for humans should those fail. I do see ethically raised/hunted meat as an essential component of a human diet, but I don’t disparage those who see differently.

On to you and your wife and the scope of my thoughts for the future....I don’t think that can be summed up very well over a keyboard, so I’ll send you a PM and we can go from there; I just thought the rest of this might be valuable info for people who might want to engage with me in similar conversations. Thank you for encouraging me to flesh out some of my ideas with your questions. I hope you and your wife land in a place that lets you live out your full potential.

 
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Good heavens! I would kill to homestead with a triple Aries...maybe I shouldn't use the word kill with my Scorpio Asc.
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I am into astrology 1000% Scorpio Asc, Libra Sun, Aries Moon. WE WOULD survive in the wild as a very dynamic duo! Are you into raising a few cattle? I want out of this "matrix" and I need to feel like an actual human. Simple living off of the land and hard physical work for the sole purpose of survival sounds very rewarding and healthy :D
 
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