Elia Freeman wrote:youtube recommended me this and found it quite connected to the topic. I wonder what ya'll think?
It's definitely worth listening to these gals
MEN: watch this video. These women won't be your one-way care takers but at least if you land one, they aren't after your pension, your land, or a free ride!
The one in Texas saying the difference between spending time with her girlfriends and time with a man is there's always a pressure about whether there is going to be hand holding, kissing, sex. This is true. I think also that as we age as men and women, we aren't actually going to be able to offer any warranties on the condition of the parts in question! I am thinking this is probably more a point of anxiety for men than women. It drives home the idea that a soul mate is a better goal, and love grows surely but steadily in older age.
The young gal at the end saying older women advising her to put in effort over the top: that may be in her circle, be it neighbors or church, but maybe this advice is coming from married women who find it works for them.
I have to wonder whether each person keeping their own place is a better solution. Many couples living together seem to be doing so for financial reasons. In the past, many women married for financial reasons. It's not a good beginning to a relationship I think.
On permies, older men hoping for a really energetic woman to toil on their land, showing pictures of their set-up are looking for a business partner with benefits so maybe they should be up front about what else other than "benefits" come with the deal, because, we aren't getting any younger and you might want to specify your age range or how many hours daily of mist-be-able-to-lift x number of pounds and is that lift and carry
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Oh, and the comment about crying while we die alone or with our cat:.
I won't be crying unless I just fell off my roof, but I will never die alone. Read the poem Footsteps aka Footprints if you don't know what I mean.
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