This statement nails much of the theme you are covering Abraham. Life used to move more slowly, and each neighborhood had shops you could walk to, and hand operated equipment was the norm. By the time you work a job to pay for even "cheap" stuff, it's more expensive than most people realize!
Abraham Palma wrote:I learned how to do microgreens, but it's very time consuming when there are cheap alternatives.
I purchased a hand coffee grinder, in part because of the flavour, in part because of not depending of another electric device which breaks before five years.
My son's approach was to wear essentially the same thing every day. He bought the heaviest weight grey cotton T-shirts he could find on the web and he bought second-hand dress shirts from the local charity shop and that's what he wears to work every day. We used to be able to get a decent weight 100% cotton dress pants for him, but not any more. All you can do is look for the heaviest weight fabric you can find, because, as you say, everything wears out quickly. At least with a farm, I can mend things for "farm use" and be very generous with the size of the patch, so the "three more holes" are covered before they form!
I learned how to mend my clothes, but it didn't work well. Once the tissue is worn out, you mend one hole, three more appear. I blame bad clothes quality...
I'm reading now the composition of every new clothing, as I don't want to buy synthetic clothes anymore. I'd say only 1/10th of the clothes in any clothes store are made of natural fibers, and it makes it very difficult to find something worthy. Like two to three hours to find a pair of trousers which are not synthetic or slim fit.
Hang in there. You mention children and they can often get involved at younger ages than many people think, particularly if you consider their size. We put the cutlery drawer and choose a shelf for out dishes that was kid-height when the children were 5 and 2 1/2 and they learned to set the table and put clean dishes away starting at those ages. If the dishes had been in an upper cabinet as people typically do, they would not have been able to help!
Soo, homesteading in a city is still possible, but you will face many adversities. People is expecting you do it the fast and convenient way, and get angry at you for being slow with your tasks, or by 'losing your time' with a hobby making stuff which is cheap to buy anyways. It's both exhausting to make the stuff and to deal with the incomprehension.