It could be easy to see if the pledge is not being met.
What about having a code of conduct? An actual physical document that the person entering has to sign in front of the group. Something along the lines of:
• I will behave like an adult at all times, meaning:
• I will not invoke excessively dramatic and/or negative behaviors such as shouting, stomping, judging, belittling, malicious gossiping, etc.
• I will be respectful to individual viewpoints, property, coupled relationships, and privacy.
• I will be respectful to the vision and untold hours of labor that built this community.
• If I disagree, I pledge to not be disagreeable.
• I will not singlehandedly block a consensus however strong my convictions are.
• I will pull my own weight and contribute in tangible ways to the growth and harmony of the community (with specific hourly/task guidelines)
• I will control the actions, decibels, and behavior of my animals/children/guests.
What about having a code of conduct?
Marissa Little wrote:
What about reform? Do you think it's worth the time to tell the jerk to simmer down and start living like a member of the community?
What about reform? Do you think it's worth the time to tell the jerk to simmer down and start living like a member of the community? Or is it just better to cut your losses on them and get a new person? It takes a lot of time for us to find long term people that will fit and it's always a sad day to see them go.
hmm it would seem that booting people would always create a degree of stress..for the booter, the bootee AND the community, even if the members of the community are in agreement.
paul wheaton wrote:
And still, the most rigorous selection process seems to be only 10% better than a pretty moderate selection process.
I think the word 'ejecting' may be a bit harsh... perhaps a more compassionate 'moving on, change of scenery' etc. works?