Some people age like fine wine. I aged like milk … sour and chunky.
Pearl Sutton wrote:I think the reason we hyper-react to new pain is we are already keeping so many pain coping balls up in our day to day juggling, it's quite a balancing act, having a few more balls tossed at us tends to cascade the whole thing onto the floor, and you feel ALL of the pain you have been coping with. It often feels like that, like a tower of jenga blocks, that is holding still RIGHT NOW, AS IS, but if you mess with it, the collapse is incredibly painful. It's NOT easy to keep it balanced enough to cope semi-normally.
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"We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light." ~ Plato
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Castles in the air never have a wet basement
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Eric Hanson wrote:I thought I would add a hidden disability that hides in plain sight. That disability is—disability, as in being forced into taking disability.
When I went onto disability, I did so kicking and screaming. I did not want to go. I tried every legal maneuver I could think of to avoid going, but ultimately I had to go (I was evaluated by a fitness-for-duty specialist who I still think was determined to see things that weren’t there but that’s another issue). At the beginning of my time on disability I absolutely climbed the walls, bored out of my mind but humiliated about going outside as I didn’t want anyone to actually see me on a school day just being at home. I paced the halls until I eventually just quit. At that point I just sat aside much of the inherent ambition that I had as a young man.
To come back, I had to be evaluated again, this time by a different evaluator who was more charitable towards me. He approved me, but warned me about how difficult it can be to restart after being of duty for over a year (and two in my case). And he was right. The world moved on. Upon my return, I noticed that many of the teachers I worked with had left (mostly retired). Students didn’t know who I was and the administrators and walked on eggshells around each other.
And I only came back to teach psychology. I was pleased to know that there was a pent-up demand for psychology in my absence as my designated substitute, while an excellent history teacher who I thoroughly respect, had absolutely no experience in psychology and was completely unprepared and unqualified to teach it. I actually took more than a little bit of satisfaction from these events as the administration had always assumed that psychology was just a class where we all sat around and talked about our feelings and therefore anyone could do it. The administration (with whom I had become quite frustrated) actually had to cancel psychology and for the first time in over four decades, psychology was not offered. Suddenly, they needed me.
But my insomnia was still severe. I could have terrible nights and fake my way through an hour. It was not until late spring of 2018 that my insomnia finally subsided enough that I felt capable of coming back full time. I planned on mentioning that the next year, but that of course was the beginning of COVID and lockdowns. I did tell my administration that I was ready to come back full time and their response was basically that they just wanted me to stay as only a psychology teacher. They reluctantly admitted that I had a right to come back (a right defined by law and contract!) and they strongly suggested that I come back to two sections (1 psychology, 1 U.S. History) first. I accepted so as to not make waves. The next year I told them that I was ready to come back full time and the superintendent insisted that it would be better for me to ease my way in as there was no reason for me to come back full time unless I was trying to “run up my retirement” but that I was not near that point. At that point I insisted that I needed to finally restart my career and that I had been too convenient too long. Reluctantly, they reassigned me back to full-time status.
But I did make the best of those not-quite full time years, partly by finishing my graduate work and maxing the pay scale, something that took effect this year. And this year I have a student observer and next semester I will have another student observer who is scheduled to be my student teacher next spring. Not every teacher gets a student teacher. I had several before my insomnia consumed me, and I am extremely pleased to be getting them again.
But for all of those years, just having been placed on disability in the first place ostracized me from my co-workers and even now, some effects from that time in professional purgatory still raise their heads.
Eric
Yeah, but how did the squirrel get in there? Was it because of the tiny ad?
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