My mom makes some good points every now and then, and I like her thoughts about "my age group" and their "labels". Essentially, what she has said and still says to me is that by making labels for ourselves and others, we are missing the whole point of these movements. The point is to unify ourselves and bring us together, and the creation of labels and attachment to these labels can further divide us. And I think my mom is right about this. In one of my own communities, the LGBTQ+, there is more than
enough strife to go around within the community, because everybody has their own labels. And in the words of one of my favorite songs
Why by Supaman, "Why do we call them Black, them White, them Asians, and use labels? Now that's racism".
This brings me to the purpose of the
thread I am making right now. I see discussions happening on the
How to Meet Men (for ladies) and How to
Meet Girls (for guys), and I want to contribute to the discussions but cannot, because me liking men does not apply to either of these. So, instead of further dividing and labeling, I want to bring the discussion to a broader generalization under for the inclusiveness of more people.
How do we meet other
gentle souls? Make meaningful lasting relationships that have the potential to blossom into romances?
Although I do not subscribe to the romantic period notion of love as two people with missing pieces searching to find another piece (person) to make them whole, there was an article that I read (which I can't find anymore, grrr) that described love as two people in two separate fortresses (their solitudes) sending waves out to each other's fortress and that the maintaining of individuality keeps the relationships healthy. That in this style of love, instead of melding two people into one, we place each other at the doors of someone else's fortress and protect each other's solitude. I find this to beautiful, because I could survive without having time to myself to be alone and think to myself and knowing someone is there to protect my me-ness is a comforting thought.
I have tried to find someone to be a partner with for a while, but I have not met anyone of quality through the social media platforms out there. So, I have resolved myself to only stick with people I meet in person and in real life. Although none of my romantic interests have panned out, for one reason or another, my friendships, my good friendships, are going well. And I think there is somethign to just being myself and being who I am. I didn't really seek out the friends that I have good relationships with, it just kinda happened. Maybe people can just tell who resonates on the same frequency as them. Because I just was going about my life, i think, and somehow I met other kind gentle souls to be around. I know this isn't quite helpful, but I think we just attract other people like us when we don't actively seek others out and just let stuff happen. And having these good relationships, making a support network, seems very
permaculture to me, as I have many shoulders to lean on, instead of just one. And I don't honestly feel that much of a need/desire to have "the one", because I have multiple friends fulfilling the different functions of a lover.
So, going back to the topic at hand. How do you meet other gentle souls and make lasting meaningful relationships?