Cesca, here's how we've been doing it for years:
Make a straw bale container, two bales on each side, 8 bales total. The reason we use straw bales is that the bales themselves add a little heat. Ours last about one year before they are too broken down to be walls anymore.
I put a layer of small branches in the bottom 6 inches. Into this bale cube goes all waste. I mean everything that isn't plastic or otherwise oil-based. We run 5 buckets of combined waste with a specially made "toilet shavings" mix, it's fine
wood shavings, peat moss, and a little char. This gets tossed into the toilet whenever someone uses it. Once 4 buckets are full, they get dumped into the cube. This is the only part that generates odors. These 4 buckets are enough to make a layer about 2 inches thick in the cube. The next layer is roughly 4 inches of loose straw, which keeps the odor from escaping. Dog poop gets the same treatment. This goes on until the cube is almost full. It will have started heating by the time it's a foot deep, though. Each layer you make will heat, then cool.
When the cube is almost full, I guess how much
carbon to nitrogen I have. Yeah, not real scientific, but it works so far. If I think it needs more N, I add
chicken litter. If for some reason it's got a lot of N already, I'll add wood chips. This gets mixed and re-piled, and then it gets HOT. I've seen piles stay hot for 6 weeks. While this pile is doing it's thing, I start another.
We usually turn/mix the piles a few times a year, and use the compost after about one year. You can plant heavy feeding plants straight into it, but usually we spread it. For most potted plants I mix it with bark fines, about 50-50 is more than enough.
It doesn't matter how long you take to build the pile, so long as you are not volatizing N, so keeping your urine separate is actually a great idea. Mix it in once you've got a yard or so. Urine can be stored in closed drums or buckets, they've done some interesting studies on that in Africa. I've noticed that when you store urine, the pH goes up, and crystals form, probably struvite. This is easily avoided by adding a small amount of sulfuric acid to the bucket. I buy battery acid (35% H2SO4) and dilute down to 8.75% (4:1) then add 100 ml of this to a bucket BEFORE I start peeing in it. If you add H2SO4 to an old bucket of stale pee, you will get a NASTY reaction, don't ask me how I know...
Hope this is helpful! By the way, our red worms won't touch the stuff in our compost piles till it's been turned several times, I don't think they like stuff "raw".
I have easily the best soil out of anyone I know, and some of these people have been
gardening way longer than me. I attribute this to
humanure and horse poop, two things most people will say to never use in your garden. Oh, and tons of red worms!