Hi! I took a look at your post. One thing to know about permies is that we've got a LOT of moderators, and that each interprets things differently. What one person thinks as a happy phrasing, another might take as condescension. It's nice having lots of moderators, because if a moderator sees something as "not nice," then there's probably 100 non-moderators that think the same way....and those people might then they turn it into a debate.
You'd written, "LOL...guys, are you kidding me!!! LOL i don't see the difference if a person says giving up or freeing...you gotta be joking, right??? LOL"
Sometimes, people take "LOL" as sarcastic and condescending, and saying that someone else is kidding when they were serious, could be taken as saying their idea is stupid. I'm pretty sure that wasn't what you were intending at all! I think you edited it to be much nicer.
And, you're not the only one to have been gir botted! I think we all have. I know I have! I take a gir botting as a learning experience; a way to see from someone else's viewpoint and learn how to phrase things even better. I've honestly learned a lot through permies, and I think it's really helped me be nicer in real life, too!
I read that "LOL" sentence as demeaning. It's probably a cultural difference. This site has a global audience and we do our best to moderate to that standard.
If I stumbled upon that, I probably would have just removed the post and moved on.
But someone nicer than me thought that the post deserved a second chance so they gave you the opportunity to edit it.
About 99% of the time, if something even slightly fails to meet publishing standards, we simply remove it. We remove a lot of stuff. 1% of the time, if a post doesn't meet publishing standards but the moderator feels it is worth saving, we put it on probation and you get a note from Gir Bot.
Probation and Almost-a-post are a reward.
It's up to you if you feel you want to edit your post to meet publishing standards.
Hi Teri. I too have been messaged by Gir Bot asking me to adjust my post. It's pretty much like Nicole said. I'd just add that it helps to remember that it's all with the best of intentions by volunteers that have seen weirder things get strangely out of hand and are trying their best to make this all work for all of us. None of it is ever at all personal, just volunteers asking you for your help in avoiding unintended situations. Whatever you can do to lend a hand when these things pop up is really very much appreciated. In fact, this thread will hopefully help a few others out if/when it happens to them. Thank you!
Moderation is what makes permies a comfortable place to play for an international community.
Paul's 'be nice' rule works.
Your posts are wonderful and fun and informative!
Just try to roll with a requested edit and adapt.
I think feeling free to express opinions and thoughts without putting anyone down is the general goal.
...and yes, I've had a message from girbot
"We're all just walking each other home." -Ram Dass
"Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder."-Rumi
For a long time we only had one button. This button vanished posts that didn't meet publishing standards.
Then we asked for a second button. This button we use for posts that are mostly-lovely but need a bit of editing. That way the author has a chance to edit the mostly-lovely post to a completely-lovely post.
This is where we are now. But it's not perfect. We only have the two buttons and these two options don't cover all the different situations that come up. So we choose the closest one.
We've asked for a new button. A button that will give us more options.
But that's in the future. For now, we make the best of what we have.