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Jason Walter wrote: in my experience online Ive noticed that someone ( or multiple people ) gets butt hurt if I do not take their advice on what specifically I should be doing. I understand its only natural human nature to a certain extent but Im trying to be more forum friendly so Ill ask the question.......how do I decide whats best for my specific situation.
You hit the nail right on the head.
In
permaculture (the theme of this site), there are no single solutions for a problem. Each location is unique and without actually travelling to the spot and looking around, we can't offer specific suggestions for that location. Even then, the only way to know what ways work best is to experiment. Divide into different sections and plant peanuts in one, peas in another, sun hemp... whatever. Then observe. That's my favourite way, but everyone has their own way to do things.
That's another one of the
permaculture things - observe and interact. Make small changes and observe how the
land responds to it.
Of course, for any system to work, we have to take into account the human that will be living with it. It not only has to work for the land but also for the person. If you had a peanut allergy for example, then maybe
don't plant peanuts.
From our side of the keyboard, we can't see all these factors, so we cannot tell you what you should do, only some options we know about. It will be up to you to try the ideas that speak to you and I hope you let us know how it turns out.
This might help you get a feel for the kind of conversation we encourage on permies:
https://permies.com/t/36971/safe-place-gentle-souls-talk