Much love to you, Jennifer (and/or to your loved one who is suffering).
I have PTSD and permaculture has helped me reframe things in a way that therapy couldn't. I really recommend checking out Looby Macnamara's book
People & Permaculture, especially Chapter 4 on "Internal Landscape."
Spoon Theory has been extremely helpful to me as well. Paul Wheaton did a great blog on it awhile back.
https://permies.com/t/48536/spoon-theory
Using a permaculture lens has helped take the shame and personalization out of my process and view it in the same way that I view land management: a slow, arduous process that will take a lot of observation, slow changes, and tweaking to reach goals. I am happy to take on the challenge because I believe that disturbed land still has value, worth and beauty. It can be recovered and turned into something harmonious and productive, but it will take time, creativity, and perseverance.
Just like land, every person is their own unique system with their own individual topography. You don't have to be ashamed that your property floods and your neighbor's does not, but you should probably make some adjustments to manage the flooding. If your first adjustment turns out to be a miscalculation that makes the flooding worse, do you just give up and sit in the water??
It's okay to be you. It's okay not to have all the answers. But in order to recover, you must stay dedicated to making changes to your system and observing the results.
Progress isn't linear. Observed results might be something like...."I can't get out of bed today due to crippling anxiety, could this be related to the scary movie I watched last night? I am going to be kind to myself about this setback and experiment with only watching movies that make me feel happy or relaxed."
As far as diet/excercise/herbs go, I do have a few things that have helped me but may not work for you/your loved one. Feel free to try them out and observe your results:
- Prioritize eating healthy and getting enough sleep
-Intense exercise for 5-10 minutes is my best medicine. My therapist says it literally changes the chemistry of the brain and is as effective as taking an antidepressant. I didn't take this advice for awhile, because I do physical labor for work and figured I was already covered. I was wrong!!! I need to sprint or go all out on a stationary bike to get the benefits. It really does help.
-Anxiety can really screw with your digestive health, and bad digestive health can cause anxiety. It's a feedback loop! I take probiotics, eat fermented foods and drink teas for digestion. My favorites are raw dandelion root and Mate Factor's Digestive Tea. I recently cut refined sugar out of my diet and it has helped A LOT, but the withdrawal symptoms were extremely difficult and lasted ~2 weeks.
- Doing meal prep every Sunday so that I have healthy food readily available during my work week. Otherwise, I may not prioritize eating or make food healthy choices.
- Yoga with Adrienne channel on YouTube
- Headspace meditation app
Also noteworthy, many people with PTSD struggle with healthy boundaries. There are lots of fun examples of this in nature. I think of it like my mint patch. I love mint and I want it in my garden, but if I am not careful, it will run wild and takeover everything. Weeding the creeping edges is not rude or violent to the mint. I love the mint AND my other veggies too and must keep them in appropriate balance for optimum production and harmony.
Some permaculture principals & applications that I have found helpful:
-Diversity: What are your needs? How can you meet them? It is important to have multiple ways to meet each need, so that if one thing falls through, your needs are still guaranteed to be met.
example: My partner is not capable of providing me with emotional support whenever I need it, so I must also rely on trusted friends, family members, a therapist, my dog, my journal and myself.
-Produce no waste: How are you using your personal energy? What causes a lot of stress and wasted energy? How can you cut down on wasted energy?
example: As president, Obama chose to wear only blue and grey suits to conserve his mental energy - he had enough choices to make.
- Catch and store energy: Recognize and take advantage of opportunities to fill your cup/replace your spoons! If there is an opportunity to meet a need, you should take that opportunity while it is available.
example: Recently, I chose to go to a cider pressing gathering instead of doing a $100 job. I felt like I should prioritize the opportunity to make money, but was able to recognize that my social needs were going unmet. I would have more opportunities to make money but very limited social opportunities with covid/winter coming.
- Obtain a yield: You can't give from empty pockets.
example: Read Paul's Spoon Theory blog!
Good luck out there <3
And big thanks to everyone else who responded! I learned some new things and am grateful for the support on this thread.