Thanks so much everyone for your comments and input. And Terry, for what it's worth, I did not find your tone abrasive, though I appreciate Bill's comment because I can be sensitive.
Terry, I have read many articles by John Lstiburek. In fact, it was his articles that inspired my slab design: we put 3" of Type II EPS rigid insulation under the slab and then another 2" of XPS around the slab perimeter. You can read about that on my blog here.
https://freelearners.wordpress.com/2016/04/10/insulated-concrete-slab-foundation/
I am not surprised that I'm using the word "breathable" in a way that is not used by the industry. Perhaps I should just stick with "vapour permeable" though the former has a nicer feel to it.

Some of what you talked about went above my head, but I can address a few points nevertheless.
Summers in our local microclimate are very dry, much more so than when I lived just across the Salish Sea in Vancouver. So I anticipate that my walls will have a long time to dry off in-between winters which I hope will prevent any potential issues with mold though I don't expect any. Our dry summers is reason why I don't anticipate many situations where outside humidity is higher than that indoors, but it was nevertheless my intention to have walls that can breathe in both directions. I will have to look into the paint situation but it is doubtful I will go with lime plasters or anything else like that - very labour intensive, small pool of skilled professionals here that can do it, and my budget is tapped out. Plus I have my pretty paint colours picked out already.
Interior humidity is really only a problem here in winter when the doors and windows are closed up and that lasts from late October to early April. In fact, for the last 3 weeks now I have had the windows open and the front door open during the day in our little mobile home. Even before that we were in a situation where the heat was needed in the morning and evening but off during the day. Our new home will have a woodstove and I anticipate that when it is fired up we will often end up opening doors or windows by midday. This short heating system and no need for mechanical cooling in the summer means I can get away with a more lax attitude towards sealing my home up airtight or needing an HRV system (or as I call them: iron lungs), because for most of the year the windows can be open.
With that said, of course the new house will have exhaust fans in the bathrooms and kitchen. We were also forced by new code regs to install an HRV system with ducts leading to all bedrooms and the main living areas - was not my desire to do so because of aforementioned short "closed up" season but it had to be done. So we will have the ability to dehumidify if necessary, though I'm betting we won't need it. In fact, I'm anticipating that we will barely need to run the HRV system at all, which is why I was ticked off that I had to shell out $5000 bucks for one.
And yes you were correct about me meaning to say "thermal bridges" and not "thermal breaks" in regard to fastening the exterior insulation system to the outside of the sheathing, my mistake. And I don't know that the engineer did not use any computer modelling, I didn't ask. And yes, while the outside insulation has an R-value of 12, there is also insulation on the inside of the sheathing, between the studs - 5.5" of Roxul batt insulation R = 22. Our building code requires wall insulation of 20, while Buildinggreen.com recommends 30. We have total of 32 so I'm pleased with that.
I'm a huge fan of Roxul which is why we used it everywhere except under the slab due to the limited underslab testing, as Terry described. My builders love the stuff and say it is fast growing in popularity here.
Let me know if I've missed anything. Some of what was said I did not understand.