You can either hit the "quote" button within the thread and it'll show the message string that you're responding to. Another way is to click on the "post reply" button up at the top of the threads and that will only record your response, with no quote from the person you're responding to. That way, everyone can read what you posted and it helps to build community.
Sending a purple moosage (thanks, I got it!) is, as you've found out, Permies's version of an DM.
You're doing it just fine...
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Meggymay Carpenter wrote:I don't know if this reply button was the one I wanted...um I sent the message things to you both because imy ew to this whole forum thing and don't really know what I'm doing lol. It looks so easy when I read forum post to things I Google and then I finally join one and I'm like...how do I reply to the individual...oh no...I have to do the dm thingy...ok, social anxiety step back I'm going to make contact.
But yeah, I sent you both private messages things and thank you for replying here! I appreciate the connection!