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I love TEDtalks. Here is a sweet and touching one that I liked by Jennifer Senior about why she thinks happiness is a high bar for parents, and at the end of the video she suggests what she thinks is a more reasonable bar to aim for:

-to do as little harm as possible (i.e. the Hippocratic Oath)
 
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Oh, I liked this! And how she described new goals for 'no script' parenting: "decency. a work ethic. love."
 
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I agree with most of it, except the goal is too low. The goal of a parent should be to raise good parents.
 
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I think the goal of a parent should be to raise good people.
 
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We are in an interesting period in time in how we as a species approach parenting.

Good video. I resonated with the part about two parents comparing themselves to others and how men are typically less able to multitask

When I'm not working on permaculture projects at Organic Life Guru, I'm writing about "Conscious Parenting" here: Unconventional Parents
 
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I believe that peranting should be taught in schools along with wex education.
Studies have shown ( I can get links if you want ) that it works better at preventing crime , drug abuse and other antisocial behavior .
Polititans just dont want to know about this solution as it costs and does not fit in with their preset ideas .

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Julia Winter wrote:I think the goal of a parent should be to raise good people.



I think there is nothing wrong with raising children to be good parents. Raising them to be just good people would leave them unprepared for responsibility of children. Statistically it is overwhelmingly in favor that a child will produce offspring when they are adults.
 
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