Michael Cooley wrote:Back when we homeschooled...it wasn't cool like it is now. My mother went berserk. Lots of people thought we were nuts. "How will they get socialization skills" was the most common negative input.
So...the oldest is now 30 and is a D P.T. (Doctor of Physical Therapy). He was student body President of a major University in our state. The youngest who is now 27(handsome and single ladies) is a successful Mechanical Engineer who has played in several bands and has many many friends. Socialization was not apparently a problem. In fact...a case can be made for the improved condition of socialization that occurs in home schooling. They were more accustomed to interactions with adults and thus learned adult behavior earlier. They were involved in home school groups that gathered regularly to enable interaction with generally behaved children their age, and they participated in recreation league sports. They missed the drug culture socialization, gang violence socialization, and group-think, state controlled education-socialization. Oh well. My boys took backpacking trips for weeks at a time as a part of their curriculum. Decent trade-off don't you think? And my mother? She's a believer now....said she wished my nephew would have had the opportunity.
So...if you are looking at Homeschooling as a way to teach in a way for improving the world through your children...you are on the right path.
Mike Cantrell wrote:I feel like this deserves some balance.
I went to public school k-12, hated it.
I went to a private college, loved it.
We're homeschooling ours, with a meets-one-day-a-week co-op.
Maybe you've never been around large numbers of badly-socialized homeschoolers. It's disconcerting. When people worry about that, they're not just inventing a problem. It exists. At my college, we had a significant homeschooler cadre. Some of them, you'd never know. Others, it was obvious. As an example, should you try not to fart around other people? Yes, you should try not to. If you can't help it, you should try to be quiet about it. And opinions differ here, but I think, if a loud over escapes you, you should pretend like nothing happened. The essence of etiquette is making people around you comfortthat there was, and I think it's worse to proclaim, "Excuse me!" than to ignore it.
My college also hosted a couple of different tournaments for homeschoolers. Again, some, no weirdness. Others, holy moly. It was clear that there was no difference in their mind between home and public. Need to occupy a piano room to practice your debate? Go ahead, it's yours! Definitely not going to be any piano students scheduled to use it today!
It was messy. So we were pretty concerned about it when we decided to homeschooling ours, having seen it go wrong. The older I get, the more I think the weird kids just came from weird parents. Reassuring, right? Unless you're a weirdo yourself and don't know it. (Or more likely, you think you're a charming weirdo and you're actually an obnoxious weirdo.)
So we haven't been completely confident about our choice, because socialization is not a totally fabricated problem. Exaggerated, maybe, but not fabricated.
Nothing for it but to do our best, I guess.
Matt Powers wrote:There's a greater lack in socialization in public ed than in homeschools. That's why they use armed police officers, metal detectors, cameras & constant surveillance. They don't know how to interact other than in a hierarchical, dominance-based way. Maybe that's why top colleges are seeking out homeschoolers.
William Lee wrote:"They were more accustomed to interactions with adults and thus learned adult behavior earlier." This right here is something I've never considered and find illuminating. To draw this out further what are the ramifications of groupthink juvenile groups in our grossly neglected public systems. Goodness excellent post.