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Mike Feddersen
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Well I pray it is okay to post this here, it's just my thoughts came across this in my dreams during a nap today.

I know we all have our views of religion, or lack of a view. I wont try changing anyone today. That said, my own view is of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I have evolved or grown up Baptist, but pretty non-denominational.
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When I was young I saw every date as an eventual partner. My wife was the one that stuck around despite herself.
I was no Romeo nor was I Valentino, but I did manage to tempt fate with a Baker's Dozen.
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My thought today with my own belief that life begins at conception, and abortion means taking a life; would I still want sex with a woman if I knew that if our union created a baby, and that I knew for sure she would choose not to have the baby?
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I know hormones rage strong in youth, alcohol played a part in some relationships, but if before I headed to the bar if I stopped and considered my actions, would I still go? Knowing with my beliefs I killed a child before it ever had a chance.
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I would like to believe I would have the love needed to not, but I am afraid if it was a real test I would fail.
 
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Mike : Very, Very, Rarely we leave the ''kiddy pool'' and find our sellers over our head ! I am very sure that you have heard this argument before, but any arguments

to the Contrary -only a tiny fraction of 1/2 of our species is capable of becoming Pregnant ! Irregardless of the fact that you or I may or may not have performed the

function of a ''sperm diner'' You and or I Fail to be Reproducers without major contribution from our 'Partners'


Think about that for a minute! Truly 1/2 of the Human race is incapable of creating any decedents, it is totally up to those capable of re-production, or those

sharing the possibility of reproduction- who actually decide who does and who does not reproduce !

It is not merely the economic burden that is primary here ! If 1/2c of the "Bloodstock'' is incapable of accepting its Breeding duties then clearly the 1/2 that carries

the next generation to term -has an immediate duty and paramount self-interest to ensure the ''Survival of the Fittest"

It would be very easy for many to say that I was/am merely ''passing the buck'' -but Ir-reguardless of ether your potential or mine to create any progeny unless

(as a given ) at the moment of conception ( or its immediate prequel ) the male partner has considered and accepted any possible conception as (His ) responsibility,

our culture literally gives the male a "Free Ride''

Personally I have never met a sexual partner who was ambiguous about whose responsibility it was to assume the (shared) duties of contraception, or who

regarded any contraception failure as anything but a personal failure that must be shared with their (potential) breading partner !

Ir-reguardless of strong emotions, or the ''love bug'' ,or even stronger ''Pulls of Hormones'', and again regardless of the Parental connection -final responsibility falls on

the 1/2 that caries the final burden ! This is my personal opinion and has survived to separate the lambs from the sheep ! Big AL
 
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I only know two women who say that they have had an abortion. I'm sure that many more have kept that information private. Both of them had children later on. One did an OK job with those kids. She has always regretted the abortion. The other is one of the worst mothers that I've ever known. She blames her daughter for a lifetime of failed relationships and financial hardship.
 
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Personally I think it is everyone's responsibility to keep in mind the possible results of our actions. It is society's responsibility to enable people to take responsibility for their personal behavior - by this I mean, in my opinion society has the obligation to promote and support the right of women to control their own bodies and reproduction (family planning, birth control, abortion), and to promote and support the right of men to control their own bodies and reproduction (condoms, right to vasectomy) and society has the responsibility to care for the results of some people's careless or stupid behavior (care of orphans, outreach to poor or ill mothers, expanded adoption policies). There are so many people on the planet, really, in my opinion, plenty of people, we should be putting a great deal of societal energy into helping people make appropriate decisions about reproduction. Preaching abstinence has not been effective, and though abstinence may be possible for some people, it is not reasonable, in my opinion, to expect this rare behavior to become the norm.
 
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I appreciate the replies, thank you.
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I guess my thoughts must be more on a personal point of view.
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If "I" believe abortion is murder, simply by having sex with a woman I risk being a party to destruction, if she doesn't want kids, or not yet.
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None of the women I had sex with ever let me know they had became with child. I have used a rubber three times, been married 25 years. One of the times was with my wife. We wanted kids, none came until we adopted our son. I guess I was shooting blanks, but that still does.'t take me off the hook.
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I am not looking for forgiveness, just wondering if a young man, especially someone that believes in the sanctity of life, might let this thought shape his sexual choices?
 
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I hope that he would. When I was a Christian, I was celibate, as I believed sex outside of marriage was not appropriate Christian behavior. Many people who believe that life in the womb is sacred are Christian, so I would hope that they would contemplate the tradition of celibacy and make the effort to pursue that. Married Christian men who have produced as many children as they believe appropriate might consider vasectomy. Though not Christian, my husband and I did not want children, so my husband got a vasectomy about a year after our marriage. Unmarried men may have difficulty finding a surgeon willing to perform vasectomy on them, as the argument is "You might change your mind and want children of your own loins." It is my personal belief that we should all think long and hard about the appropriateness of children of our loins, considering how very many unwanted children there are already in the world.

 
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