Perfectly south-facing windows have much less of these glare and summer overheating problems than do windows that are SE or SW. The west side is especially annoying for overheating and glare, as sun comes in for a long time on hot summer afternoons. With the appropriate overhang over exactly-south windows, summer sun-drenching should not happen much. Add translucent white shades or drapes that you can pull when the glare annoys you, and I don't think there's much problem left.
I've lived in houses in a cold climate, heated only by passive solar, for the past 20 winters. We don't get overheating in summer from the windows, and in fact the sun barely shines in the windows in summer. I've noticed that houseplants on the windowsill don't get
any direct sun for a couple of months. Granted, we're only 34* North, whereas you're probably above 40*N, so for us the sun is higher in summer and thus comes in the windows very little in summer. The summer sun will be lower at your latitude, but you can design for that with an overhang over the windows. Most of our houses are exactly south facing (that's solar south, not magnetic south, which is as much as 6* off in my region of northern India).
I'm very happy with the solar heating on my residential quarters, done by a
greenhouse made of plastic, that we roll down and fix in November, and roll up out of the way from May through October. This means that all summer my south wall is just a normal wall with less than 50% of it as windows. In winter, I open the door and windows between the house and
greenhouse all day to let hot air in, and then close them in the evening to keep the heat in the house.
We always design so that the rooms we spend time in are on the south, and keep the north of the building for entrance, storerooms, corridors, stairs, etc. Those northern parts often get very chilly in winter, though not down to freezing, but they make a very effective buffer so that the southern rooms have less exposure to extreme cold outdoors.
Our school has one small building with a trombe wall and no greenhouse. It is exactly south-facing. It seems hotter than my quarters, especially in autumn and early winter, and in fact overheats a bit in November and early December when everyone is wearing sweaters and doesn't want it so warm. It doesn't seem to overheat in summer though, as it's got a nice little overhang so that very little sun hits the glass in summer.
We also have some rooms that are called "glassrooms," a
local modern tradition. At our school, these have 100% of the south wall glass, with no trombe wall inside, and then the glass wraps around a bit of the east and west wall as well. These are thermally uncomfortable! They overheat on any sunny or warm day, and get cold quickly on winter evenings. Big mistake, and we are gradually tearing them down and rebuilding them as trombe walls. They are very beautiful rooms but you can only really sit in them when it's cloudy, or in the mornings. Sometimes our volunteers from tropical places go in there and bask when nobody else can stand the heat.
I'm not so sure about deciduous trees and vines to make seasonal shade. I've noticed that deciduous trees still cast shade that makes a thermal difference. Snow that falls in the shadow of deciduous trees can last for days or weeks at our school, whereas it melts or evaporates in the first day, if in direct sun. So I'm reluctant to plant deciduous trees south of our buildings. I think they would significantly reduce the solar gain when you most need it in winter. But they'd probably be welcome on the west side, which is where the most uncomfortable overheating is likely to come from.