giant gardener guy, pretty old and wore out, with a 100% failure rate in relationships

A lot of my feelings have been reflected in other posts.  I won't bother repeating what's been said before, but wanted to add that there are women out there having a similar experience to yours, and wanting the same things you want.  For whatever reasons, we have have a hard time finding a romantic partner with matching values even when we immerse ourselves in things that express and explore those values as you have.  
Some believe it's karma; and that can provide a comforting sense of knowing; but who knows if they're right.  I know it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person, and take great comfort in that as I head into old age on my own- and with a lot less experience and know how than you as I try to create a homestead in my fifties.  

I don't consider all my past romantic relationships failures.  Some were failures until they ended.  Others turned into friendships and were great successes even if we drifted apart.  I think the only failure is when we know someone isn't right for us and we stay rather than be alone or deal with the confrontation and mess that a break up entails and so let ourselves go numb.  I'm guilty of that.

While I think it's important you not compromise on core values, that doesn't mean you can't explore a relationship with someone who doesn't check all your boxes.  Just let them know things won't be moving past friendship if they don't understand your perspective-  and both of you must be willing to compromise.  For some women wearing makeup is artistic expression, and they are not right for you (although there is non toxic makeup and some women make their own from natural products, these women will probably want to be appreciated for their glamour). Other women feel they are not taken seriously or found attractive without makeup.  They would love to know their man actually hates it and it would give them the courage to face society with a naked face if they knew their man had their back.  They have other women policing them, friends and sisters telling them they need it and it makes many of us insecure and confused about what men like.  
I know a few women who don't smoke anything or drink alcohol but allow their man to do it outside the house on the porch.  When the right man came along, it was a compromise they didn't mind making.   When the chemistry is there, sometimes a few things can be more negotiable... or not.  

My advice on this and most things is to just stay open.  You never know where life will take you, and who or what will turn up when.  
More advice- do yoga!  So many women who are dedicated to a yoga practice long for a man to join them who doesn't drink or smoke or pollute his body and would support them with a permaculture produced bounty of food and clean living!!! and you are the unicorn they have been dreaming about!


and a little more advice- get a dog if you don't already have one. It seems to me like way more women want dogs in their life than men.  If you want to get attention from random women, just walk your dog.  Walk your dog past the yoga studio.  Walk your three legged, one eared rescue dog past the yoga studio- clean living women who want a homesteading lifestyle will think you are the compassionate man of their dreams.  I know- dogs are a pain in the ass and can be dangerous.  But most chicks like dogs these days, especially the all natural, living off the land types.  

… too bad you’re not into Jesus and pine cones. (But hopefully my joke makes you laugh as hard as it’s making me.)

If I were single (and I am both suitable and not suitable in all sorts of other ways) I would be put off by the expectation of failure.
Why expect failure in relationship? Do you want someone who sees you as a challenge, not as a partner? Or as a partner in a doomed venture?
Everything has a lifespan.
Getting to the end can and often is seen as failure. Not a very realistic stance, but one I'm struggling with every time I see my wrinkles or feel how my old body doesn't do what it once did. But really, that's a success, I got this far.
Convincing oneself to accept a certain outcome as final is simply trying to avoid seeing what's further along. One might end up single. One might end up partnered. One might end up grieving. One might end up thinking about dead ends rather than being willing to keep following that little trace that might be a path around the other side of that boulder, just to find out.
But no one in their right mind wants a partner who has his mind set that relationships are not going to work and that he is torturing her with his companionship.

Hi Paul,

I honestly think your face is like one of the famous movie stars or you can play as Abraham on the next movie cast opportunity (we only live once).

I guess being single is permissible if you have 100% failure rate. Was thinking if you can find someone with that same confident (100% failure rate); you might have found your match indeed .

I have just recently tried to learn permaculture and BB and SKIP; it's a great thing that this community has built here. I'm delighted to join the process and hoping we can actually bring this community up for a greater extend digitally through a mobile app.

Can please let me know, would you be willing to join my app as one of our contributors along with the community members?

We would need a LOOOOOOOOOTTTTT more people to be aware of pemaculture, so this world doesn't feel at stuck /stagnant when A.I grows, because mankind actually also grow better (with permaculture skills - woohoo).

Please let me know if I can share the app link on this forum to share it to others too. I hope it will entice more users to join permies also, especially to be successful at SKIP program (and really help others along the way).

Thanks,
Gracia Jessica

Jess - welcome to permies! Have a look at advertising your stuff. Becoming a contributing member is the best way to build goodwill.