Stacy Witscher wrote:...While I like poly relationships, the community I experienced was troubling...
Stacy Witscher wrote:There were numerous issues. Most poly relationships involve a lot of agreements. Some of the people I knew were manipulative with these agreements, many of these people just didn't keep their agreements. I knew several people that had children with other people that were the result of these broken agreements, not good.
It seemed like everybody was so concerned with dating that they had time for little else in their lives, not really my style. It didn't seem balanced to me.
But I really like the idea of not needing to be someone else's everything or vice versa.
Seth Gardener wrote:Monogamous or poly relationships both require the same things wich is communication, agreements and commitment to the agreements.
I think there are people out there who are not necessarily polyamorous, but maybe think they are, but in reality they are just noncommittal type who can no more commit to their poly agreements than they could to a monogamous one.
Maybe it's a fine line or maybe the fine line does not exist and I am just projecting the need for commitment to polyamorous relationships. Polygamy which not polyamorous certainly does require commitments and those relationships do have agreements/rules.
Jamie Kennedy wrote:It’s been great for me, after the initial learning curve. It has definitely been a growth catalyst. It’s helped me communicate better, and analyze the reasons why I feel certain things, and adjust accordingly. I’m married and have one other partner. I think the key is for all parties to be supportive and open with each other.