Bethany Dutch wrote:
elle sagenev wrote:We have staunchly refused the elf. My husband says it's getting the kids ready for big brother. They've begged for one, but no. The last thing we need is more responsibility during the holidays. Hard pass.
Hard agree. I was blissfully ignorant of it until I was already parenting and had our set traditions. I've never had it, it was never brought up, my kids never missed it. And I'm glad LOL! I think it's creepy - and I don't think it's a good thing to teach kids that it's "fun" to be watched constantly. Not to mention it's just ONE more thing to do. I stopped by the local elementary school this week and saw they have a big sign with all the different themes kids were supposed to dress up like every day this last week before winter break. As if their parents don't already have enough stuff to do this week 🙄
Yep! Nope, not in my house either. Not even as a kid, though I do remember some similar decoration, just never the big focus on always being watched, or the storyline/play rules being it needs to be moved around the house; the point being to try to find where it has moved to today! An extension of the Santa Claus game.
So, I'm going to play devils advocate and add an alternative viewpoint.
There is a powerful sense of "belonging" or maybe just a recognition of self in a "tradition " that is a common practice on a more global scale. This need to share that we IDENTIFY AS part of the same tribes is not new. It has changed with the advent of social media. We are doing it here, now, by us each spending time prowling, lurking, sharing our stories and ideas, asking community advice...
I thought it was important to see Elf in another light, one not being vilified. I like
games around holidays. Easter is a fun one, and I love Halloween
games.
I have resisted adoption of Elf mostly cuz he is a bit creepy. But I'm a fan of the
lights this time of year. Hands down, xmas is my favorite.