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Leaving room for other peoples ideas.

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  • Report post to moderator is a very varm and friendly place.I guess it has a lot to do with the staff here and that we all have a lot in common.I feel safe here.
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I'd never noticed a post being deleted because of this reason until recently, but now I think the way this forum is moderated contributes to what a helpful source of information and online community it is.

At first I'd appreciated this 'expert' post telling us all how wrong we were, as he seemed to have a lot of knowledge on the subject, but then I wondered what the experience would be like for someone new to this topic - they might assume their off-grid dreams are not possible because this person shut down every idea other than a small list of expensive ones, and others might no longer want to contribute their own ideas because they don't want to bluntly be told that they're wrong.

If this person had communicated in a different way, then it may have led to a useful discussion. There are many places online to read posts saying "your way is wrong, only my way works", it's nice to have somewhere without this, and I think it makes us feel more free to express our own opinions and experience, and makes it a more informative and inspiring place to be.
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I think the antagonistic spirit is inherent to a big majority of people. We were born with it or shall I say it was downloaded to us by the family and community. It is also clear that most of us are working on it as we grow. What we need is to constantly remind ourselves/ others of this in a nice way. So from this point whenever I sit in front of my PC and before touching the keyboard I will remind myself that behind those words I'm reading are people like me. Maybe most are non English and have difficulty grasping the meaning of words much more the emotions behind the words. Yes I do think words has emotions depending on how its use in the sentence. And this is where most non English like me struggles. That's is why I try to be as short and concise. I have one question though. where does the thumbs down icon factor in the "be nice" rule.
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I have to agree whole heartily with this mindset.

I first read the post about "The Margarine Effect", and did not think it really worked well, and explained my thoughts. A few considered what I wrote, and then had a different idea. After reading how they came to that conclusion, my thoughts on "The Margarine Effect" rather changed, and I could see how it actually fits well.

I left room for other's ideas, and feel empowered by it, not disgruntled because others did not agree. I was big deal, thanks for setting me straight in a respectful way!
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I think it's possible to have respect for people, without having respect for their ideas or those who planted those ideas. I have a brother who latches onto every conspiracy theory on the internet. He has presented his case on many subjects, over and over again. I have listened. I consider myself well versed in the subjects he deals with. And I consider it all of bunch of nonsense. 

He has stated his position, and I have stated mine. We could leave it there, but that never happens. He insist that I must come to believe what he believes and that to not do so, is being disrespectful and dismissive of his great intellect.
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