Heels eh? That's another one of those fashion things that I avoid, because I think that heels are harmful to the body, and greatly increase the risk of injury to the wearer. And yes, I freely admit to being highly prejudiced against women wearing heels. So if my first impression of a woman is of her wearing heels, she's extremely unlikely to get the opportunity to make a second impression. Life to short. I don't have time to waste developing relationships with people that I have to teach basic life principles to, such as: "don't poison yourself", and "don't set yourself up to be injured".
I gather that there is a lot of social pressure to wear heels, though. It can be difficult to navigate the world while bucking all social pressures; especially if one's chosen path is "career professional," one pretty much has to lay aside self-expression and conform to mainstream expectations. "Business casual" is much more formal than I would prefer to be. But seeing as I have not yet figured out how to live without money, I have to play the workplace game.
aw, I fondly remember when I had the time and energy to put into wearing makeup.
I prefer a natural face, and am a much firmer believer in good skin-care over good makeup. ((The better you take care of your skin, the less makeup you'll need in my thinking))
That being said, I'm a mum to three and my littlest hasn't slept through the night in over a year.
...I look like I've been punched in the eye with how purple the bags can get, and when I need to go into town, I'm very thankful for a bit of concealer that can fade those baggies for just a little bit.
I personally find doing a full-face of makeup a waste of time ((who's going to see me? the baby?)) but I don't judge those women who enjoy adding a bit of colour, or mascara or (for those poor sleep deprived mothers like myself) who are trying to look just slightly more human than they feel.
"You know what they call bats?.. Chicken of the cave."
My opinions on this are much weaker than my feelings. I have trouble carrying on a conversation with a girl or woman who has caps on her nails and/or unnaturally long eyelashes, not because I assume something about her personality, (After all, I'm a guy. I understand nothing about the psychology of a woman who wears makeup) but because I get confused by the silliness of the things she hides behind, which to me look drastically grotesque, and certainly unfeminine. I understand that beauty for women is something like strength is for men, and since it's not my domain, I choose to respect that.
I want to say, however, that there are natural "beauty products". For instance, plantain salve apparently works miracles for dry and rough skin.
Earthworks are the skeleton; the plants and animals flesh out the design.
Here’s good advice for practice: go into partnership with nature; she does more than half the work and asks none of the fee. – Martin H. Fischer
Jocelyn Campbell wrote:I thought permies might like to talk about going without make-up (is it makeup or make-up?).
In my 20's and now, I LOVE that no makeup is (usually) a toxinectomy, healthier for my skin (and eyes, eyelashes, nails, hair, etc.), far more frugal (d'oh) and a time saver, to boot!
Other thoughts or struggles with makeup?
I really love going without face makeup and have gone without it for many years. I can usually be found wearing makeup maybe 3 times a year. I’ll wear it for a wedding, a funeral or a special event. In my teens and 20’s my friends and I would go out dancing and makeup was a way of self-expression and creativity. I had no idea how toxic it was! Now I try to only purchase products that receive a 0-3 toxicity rating on the ‘Think Dirty’ App.
I’ve never really been into painting my fingernails but I actually really enjoy painting my toenails, so I’ll do that once every 3 months or so using more natural/non-toxic vegan nail polish.
I have some friends that wear makeup everyday and some that don’t leave the house without it. I do often think that they look much more beautiful without makeup and try encouraging them to wear it less or at least choose makeup that’s not causing cancer and hormone disruption. Unfortunately, their insecurities, past experiences of societal expectations and the expectations of men in their lives (past/present) won’t let them get over the hurdle.
Surprisingly, even working as student teachers in a Master’s/credential program, both my classmate and I got write ups on our reviews that we should wear more makeup because we should look more ‘professional.’ She and I talked about how sad that was. Thankfully, we both had times working at a Waldorf inspired school which of course embraced us enjoying the natural look.
I’ve always thought working with children and in education, I wanted to do everything in my power to be a positive influence on both boys and girls to not need to ‘fit in’ with the current fashions, styles and expectations. I cringe at the ‘beauty’ expectations of girls that begin younger and younger now. I don’t have a TV and my life isn’t infiltrated with images of women with photoshopped/filtered bodies and faces but many young people’s lives are and it does effect them.
The hardest thing for me to give up, being only in my late 30’s is coloring my hair. The longest I’ve gone after getting a lot of grey is about 9 months and that was with the encouragement of a partner who I thought I was going to marry, who was 12 years older than me. After things didn’t work out between us, I decided that though I’d love to have the confidence to just be ‘natural’ I just really feel more beautiful coloring my hair and I really like it. I’m not a fanatic about coloring it consistently every 4-6 weeks. I let lots of months go buy and one day look in the mirror and think, “bleh, I need to do something about this.” I’ve written about my choice in natural hair color on my much neglected blog: https://www.myalmostsimplelife.com/hair-color/
I thought about this topic because I colored my hair yesterday. In the past, I diligently took a lot of time self-reflecting about wearing makeup and coloring my hair. Am I doing it for myself? Do I really like ‘such and such’ or has the influence of my culture in some ways forced a belief system on me that I can’t escape? Why am I doing this?
I think many people would benefit from asking these questions to themselves about many of the choices they make in life. Most of us, if we take the time, can find both the messages that have been spoken out loud to us and those subliminal ones that influence the many little decisions in our daily lives. Knowing what we want, what we do and why I think is important to consciously evaluate.
I don’t look in the mirror often, as I find it important to spend more time evaluating my character, thoughts, and actions than my hair and body, but I like feeling good about what I see. For now, the hair coloring remains and assists in giving me that good feeling.